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kitkat610

My FI and I used to work at the same company. He got a job out of state so he moved and I stayed behind to work for a few months before quitting to move with him.
Today, he got a FB message from my boss' wife who works in Accounting. She heard from HR that his address is in AZ, and wants to know what is up....

I really hope I dont get fired before I planned to quit. I really wanted to finish out this project, and we need the money for the wedding....

Is that even legal? Since when is it ok for HR to gossip about employees?

DramaGeek

That woman crossed a MAJOR line.  Major.  I'd be reporting her to HR.

GJones27

Yeah, I don't know enough about labor law, but the Supreme Court recently ruled that you can't dismiss an employee for something his/her fiance did.  Check it out below.  But that had to do with someone complaining, but it would seem to me that "moving away" could also be considered.  After all, married couples do do long distance relationships.  

If they do fire you, maybe you can sue them and then settle.  Perhaps the damages would more than make up for it?

I would report her, and if they move to fire you, I would consult a lawyer.  I don't even go to law school yet.

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joyfulbride424

Yes, report this to HR please

mrandmrsbrist

This sounds like a mess...and I hope your FI didn't reply to the FB message.

You need to start looking into company polices right now to figure out if you violated some small print. Check out things you signed when you first hired, information about severance packages, etc.

And if you do get fired, contact your state labor department to figure out if you even have a wrongful termination case.

Good luck! I'm praying for you.

iamjoesgurl

Are you concerned that they will find out that you are planning to leave and fire you first?  I just wasn't sure that I understood what happened.

DramaGeek

Lisa, that's the way I read it.  I know 3 very happily married couples who live in different states - one on separate coasts even! - so if they assume you're moving, well, I'd be livid.

Kit Kat, make sure your fi didn't respond and tell him not to respond to her.  Both of you be careful about what you post on FB regarding leaving the company/moving to AZ, and check your employee handbook.  If you don't have one, consult HR tomorrow.

AshNoel8

I don't know anything about this kind of stuff, but I will say a prayer that it all works out for you! 

Soon2BeMrsTing

I'm an HR Director with my company right now.

Your boss's wife should have contacted you directly using company email.  Two strikes against her for 1) corresponding via facebook, and 2) contacting your fiance rather than you personally.

Do you have access to the company HR manual?

EDIT: This post assumes he fully complied with company policy throughout his exit process.  Could he still somehow be on company payroll?  Maybe there was a snag somewhere, and the boss's wife (accountant) was, in fact, trying to get in touch with him and not with you. 

loves2shop4shoes

This was completely unprofessional of her.  Don't reply to her FB message.  If she has a concern, she should be having a formal meeting with you, or at the very LEAST corresponding with you via company email.

I don't know enough about labor law to get into the possibility of lawsuits...so I won't touch that.