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amongthelilies25

Did anyone do or is doing a money dance or money tree?
We dont really like them...but we want SOMETHING that says "hey...would you like to bless us financially?" 
ideas?
what are you ladies doing if anything?

kellya01

I'm not... but I'm in the camp of thinking where if people want to bless me financially, they'll be more than happy to drop a card into the card box, mail a card, give it to my family or myself, or even possibly bring it to the bridal shower. 

I've heard that money dance / money tree is more of a social circle thing ... it isn't in mine, and I know it would make me appear greedy because it's not in my circle.  However, I've heard others on here talk about how if they did NOT do a money dance, it would be extremely unusual and people would be expecting the dance.

Oh, and we'll have a card box on the gift table.  Easy-peasy.  :-)

joyfulbride424

We are not doing anything like that, we are leaving it up to fate

amongthelilies25

ya...i am thinking of just having a card box that says "bless the bride and groom".

a friend just got married and it is tradition for a "cowboy wedding" to pass around a cowboy boot and the guests put money in it. they got over $1,000 that way! on top of cards! 

i am trusting God tho! 

kitkat610

it is not a tradition in my family or circle so we are doing anything like that. A good friend did the dance where they pin money to you, and got quite a bit. Her dad started it off with two fifties lol, but it is also completely expected in her culture/tradition.

amongthelilies25

ya....i dont think we will do anything. (: 

thanks ladies! 

louieblue

It's probably best that you don't have a sign or anything -- that could be considered very tacky and offensive by guests. 

We didn't have a money dance or put a sign up or anything because most guests gave us a card with a check inside even though DH and I set up a registry.  You wouldn't want to make guests feel uncomfortable that you were expecting financial help along with their attendance at your wedding.  You will probably be very happily surprised at the amount of monetary gifts you will get for the wedding.

sessionswedding

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[QUOTE]I'm not... but I'm in the camp of thinking where if people want to bless me financially, they'll be more than happy to drop a card into the card box, mail a card, give it to my family or myself, or even possibly bring it to the bridal shower.  I've heard that money dance / money tree is more of a social circle thing ... it isn't in mine, and I know it would make me appear greedy because it's not in my circle.  However, I've heard others on here talk about how if they did NOT do a money dance, it would be extremely unusual and people would be expecting the dance. Oh, and we'll have a card box on the gift table.  Easy-peasy.  :-)
Posted by kellya01[/QUOTE]
This.  I personally have always thought the dollar dance was a bit tacky, so we're not doing anything like that.

loves2shop4shoes

Honestly, I don't think having a money dance, especially if it's not tradition in your circle, is going to say "bless us financially".  If people want to give you a lot of money as a present, they will...money dance or not.

What you COULD do is register for fewer items so as to imply that you'd appreciate money...and you could use word of mouth to spread this around if anyone asks what you want. 

Also, people know what the card box is for.  You don't have to write "Bless the bride and groom" for your guests to know that the card box= the money chute.

AshNoel8

I agree with PP's. We are not doing one and I have never been a huge fan of them. 

kalizoomba

I'd never heard of the money dance until I joined TK. if people want to give you money they will. I think asking for it is a bit much. No one's going to come prepared to give you money, then not give it to you because you didn't have a money tree or money dance. If they come ready to give you some, they'll personally hand it to you, or slip it into a card and mail it to you later. 

Soon2BeMrsTing

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[QUOTE]I'd never heard of the money dance until I joined TK. if people want to give you money they will. I think asking for it is a bit much. No one's going to come prepared to give you money, then not give it to you because you didn't have a money tree or money dance. If they come ready to give you some, they'll personally hand it to you, or slip it into a card and mail it to you later. 
Posted by kalizoomba[/QUOTE]

All of this, exactly. No asking for money!