I've looked through several posts but haven't found my particular situation to get advice on... here's the deal.
My FI and I are planning our wedding for 5/2014 (venue booked, etc). Lately, we've been feeling more convicted and wanting to be more in obedience to God. We currently live together, etc... My school schedule has ZERO breaks until I graduate next year, which is why we planned the wedding so far out.
We've been thinking about going to the courts this year on our pre-anniversary to do it legally and stop the feeling of living in sin, but there's no way we could plan the wedding for our families. Both of our families are extremely excited for a "real wedding" since both of our siblings skipped that step in their relationships. We are their last hope, and we don't want to disappoint.
If we went to the courts, should we tell our families, or avoid it? Would it detract from the specialness of the day? Should we just do our best to wait it out, since our schedule will be SO chaotic for the next year? This decision seems so complicated when you add in finances, health insurance (I'm currently on my mom's since I'm in school full time), car insurance, etc... I want to do right by God, but I'm really struggling with the how's and logistics...