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Ceremony Readers

naomikbnaomikb member
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Are you getting your ceremony readers a thank-you gift and/or a corsage/boutonniere?

When we met with our florist she asked if we wanted bouts/corsages for them, it seemed standard.  From looking at other international boards it looks like people also get a thank-you gift (often a gift certificate) for reading.

I hadn't planned on getting them anything.  It seems awkward to give them a $25 gift certificate, then it's more like a job.  And getting them a bout/corsage would be nice but then they'd stand out for the rest of the day...?

What are you doing/what are your thoughts?
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Re: Ceremony Readers

  • uneek1323uneek1323 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes to both questions.
    Ceremony readers are apart of your wedding. I am getting her a pinned flower and a gift just like the other members of the wedding party.

    Presumably, you pick ceremony readers because they are someone that's close to you or FI. Why wouldn't you want them to stand out the rest of the day?

    Getting them a gift, even a gift card, doesn't make being a reader a job. It's a gift to say thank you for being apart of the wedding, etc. 
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    edited December 2011

    We didn't have readers, but I would get them a gift just like any other member of the wedding.  They may not be a part of the wedding party, but they are part of the wedding for sure, and a very special part.  I'd probably do a small gift, not a gift certificate.

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  • azdancer8azdancer8 member
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    edited December 2011
    Our readers were a few of our current and former pastors. We had 5 pastors total, and we wanted them all to have a role in the wedding. They each got a bout for the day and a thank you gift. :)
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  • AshNoel8AshNoel8
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    edited December 2011
    Yep! We ordered a corsage for the reader (FI's aunt) and are getting her some sort of gift. It's a nice gesture to give them something- doesn't have to be big or expensive. 
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  • SaraAndrew2010SaraAndrew2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    We got our readers small gifts, about $20-25 each.  We got married just before Christmas so we gave our readers ornaments.

    We didn't give the readers flowers.  They were all young women who we figured would find a corsage kind of stuffy.
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  • iamjoesgurliamjoesgurl member
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    edited December 2011
    One of our readers was my sister/MOH and the other was a friend.  I am so embarrassed to say that we did not get this friend anything.  After the fact we made a generous donation for his support (he raises his own support with a Non-Profit) so maybe that makes up for it???  I will probably feel bad for the rest of my life about this.

    I don't feel like flowers would have been considered for him but definitely we would have given a gift.
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  • naomikbnaomikb member
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    edited December 2011
    Hmm... okay, thanks for the feedback, ladies.  I will definitely have to re-think this.
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