Prayer Request/ I just need to get out my frustration...

SugarFoote

My family needs your prayers. This is probably going to be a P&R because I have to leave for work.

I cannot keep this bottled up anymore. My cousin is 17. Let's call her B

About a year ago she started dating this guy (lets call him Roach...because that is the nicest word I think to call him right now lol). Roach is 18. Just graduated high school. Has zero intentions of going to college/tech school. Does not have a job and is not looking for a job. Roach has made it a habit of not calling B by her name. He instead calls her awful names and she answers to it. Roach is abusive towards her and others. He punched me in the thigh before for no reason and it left a terrible bruise. When I punched him back, he thought it was funny and said, "I was just joking."...So punching people randomly is joking now?

Let's backtrack. 17 years ago my Aunt got pregnant by her then husband. He found out she was pregnant and divorced her. He claimed he was unable to reproduce and that she must have cheated on him. He made zero attempts to get in touch with B.

B recently found her dad (more like sperm donor) on FB and they started communicating. She along with Roach would go stay the weekends with him with his family. While there, her sperm donor allowed her and Roach to sleep together, smoke, and drink.

B cursed her mother out because she would not sign for them to get married. B then called her dad, and the two of them moved in with him. Her mother has a lot of health problems and this nearly caused her to have a stroke. Her blood pressure was so high they had to rush her to the ER.

Last week B and Roach moved back. They are now both living with her mother. Her mother plans to sign for them to get married.

Neither one of them have jobs. B dropped out of high school and won't go get her GED. They think it is "cool" to live off of government assistance and plan to do just that. 

B's mother told her that if Roach was going to live there, she was getting put on birthcontrol. B said she couldn't. Her mother asked why. Turns out, B is 6 weeks pregnant.

jenningz

Oh my.... what a horrible situation. Unfortunately, a lot of 'kids' these days think it's 'cool' to live off the government. In fact, if you look at the math - you're better off not working, and living off the government than you are if you go to school, or work hard in your job.

Will keep you in my prayers. I hope things turn out okay in the end, it's a cr4ppy situation to be in. Especially when she's so young, xo

Ash61612

so sorry to hear this. This is a tough situation to be in. prayers for your family

randlettandfraleigh

Prayers going up for her and your family. Hopefully the example of you and your FI will show her what a relationship should really look like and she will grow up a little. Prayers!

GunzNRoses213

Oye.....Praying.... Just love her ... Eventually once the child is born lets hope she gets a clue..Until then all you can do is pray and be there for her /your aunt when the you know what hits the fan when the boy will eventually bail ... 

my parents had to wait around till i had enough of my X [kids dad ] and trust me it wasnt easy for them but once it was finally over with him it was like the story in the bible.... So just have your family waiting and ready... My family despite the circumstances [he left me when i was preggers ] my dads family was going to have a suprise babyshower for me ... They along with the church just loved me unconditionally despite what had happend...  

SuMmErKuTiE

Oh man, I'm sorry to hear this. I'll definitely keep them in my prayers. Keep us updated on how she's doing.

BMcLeodTeam

What a difficult situation! Praying!

joe&cassie

That is a very hard thing.  I am really sorry you and your family are struggling with this.  Ditto what PP said.  I hope things turn out.  Praying.

SugarFoote

Thanks everyone. I almost think she thinks "its cool" to be pregnant. 3 of her friends that are her age and younger have already had babies. It's like a trend with them, I figured once the first one got pregnant the others would realize that it's not all that cool and it's not easy either. But instead of causing her to take a step back and think, she and the others have only been encouraged. It's really sad.