Pray Request for Contentness

mkmistretta

I haven't been on this board very much and I try to not come to the knot too often since we most likely won't be getting married until December 2013.  My boyfriend and I are not officially engaged, although we tend to view ourselves as such.  He has had the ring since December, but my parents want him to wait until the summer to officially propose.  He was originally going to do it this summer.  My parents really like him, but aren't ready for us to be engaged yet.  We are both undergraduate students currently and plan on getting married when I finish school.  We have been together 3 and a half years. 
Recently I have been struggling a lot with being content with out situation and where I am in life.  It's hard when we view our relationship one way but feel we cannot be completely honest and open with everyone about how we feel.  If you guys could pray for me and us that would be great.  We are really trying to honor my parents wishes and be content with being together as a dating couple, but it can be difficult to focus on the good.  Thanks

BMcLeodTeam

Definitely will pray for you Its difficult sometimes, I understand that...

mkmistretta

Thanks

sprtychick10

praying. I know how hard it can be sometimes.

mkmistretta

Just difficult to be patient and content with where we are at.  You guys are awesome.

iamjoesgurl

I think that it is great that you are honoring your parents' wishes.  I know that sometimes we don't understand what our parents think and that makes so many people turn against their parents' wishes.  But you are blessed to have parents who care about you and they are blessed to have a daughter who loves them enough to be patient with them.  I'll be praying for you that God will honor you for this decision and that you will find contentment in this situation.

Before I got married, when I would get frustrated by the wait (I was ready to be married, he wasn't), I would remind myself that the wait would be temporary and then we would be together for the rest of our lives.  It somehow made it a little easier for me.

sister2groom

Parents aren't always right, on the other hand, sometimes they have wisdom we don't. Although I don't think there's anything wrong (and would probably be a good thing) with having a rational and respectful conversation with your parents about their objections. Not necessarily to try to convince them otherwise, but maybe they have suggestions about things you can work on to mature in certain areas.

Regardless of whether they are right or wrong, I believe God will honor you honoring your parents. And it's not een just my belief Exodus 20:12 (Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the LORD your God is giving you.) seems to suggest that honoring your parents leads to blessing.

Hope that helps.

drama1308

Whether you get engaged now or next summer, you still have over 2 years to wait until the wedding. While you aren't engaged you are commited to marrying each other. H and I were engaged for 1.5 years and it was terribley long. 

I am praying for your contentment though. 

mkmistretta

Thanks so much everyone.  We know that parents aren't always right, but we know that getting engaged right now won't help anything.  They haven't had a lot to say advice wise which is frustrating, because I feel that part of it is them not wanting to let go of me because I am the baby of the family.  We would rather get married sooner if we could, but we have realized that it would be a horrible financial decision and that we will be more mature and more ready when we do get married. 
Thank you iamjoesgurl for your advice :-)  I try to keep that mind set.

ravenray

I will pray for you.  I know how hard it is to wait.  I just finished my wait; it is worth it no matter how hard.  At the end of the day you will still be marrying the love of you life and spending the rest of your life with him! 

AshNoel8

I will pray. Seek God's will in the situation. 

FaithCaitlin

Praying!