So, do you girls ever fight with your FIs about money? How do you resolve it?
I am getting increasingly frustrated with my FI about how he reacts to anything I spend. My FI is Brazilian, and things there are super cheap. He thinks everything in America is overpriced, so whenever I have to spend money on something, he gets emotionally upset. For example, two days ago, my parents who are paying for the wedding spent $500 on invites, and he overreacted, saying, "Invites are $1 each! Not $5!" Last night, my computer found a trojan horse, so I had to call McAfee to fix it, which cost $100 (though they refunded me, because nothing was found). But he got upset about that amount, too. I think it's reasonable for someone to disagree about money, but it has to be done in a non-emotional and non-judgemental way. I keep telling my FI that it makes me upset when he gets angry and acts shocked when I have to spend money on something, and I keep explaining that he has unreasonable ideas of what things cost in America. But he doesn't improve.
Meanwhile, I really don't understand where these emotions are coming from. He is from a relatively wealthy Brazilian family (though during the military regime times in Brazil they struggled to save). We'll be fine with finances in the short-term, as my parents will support me for the next three years in law school. He has enough money and support to get through his grad school.
Any suggestions on how to resolve money issues? I am willing to do my share to keep spending as low as possible, but I don't like his overreactions. It's getting to the point where I'm avoiding telling him what I am spending, and even my parents are telling me to do that.