Yesterday FI and I went to visit his parents for Father's day. He doesn't have a "dad" but his grandfather has acted as one for his whole entire life. He even calls him Dad. Unfortunately the visit yesterday was not in good spirits. He is starting to get very old and sickly. When we called to announce we were coming over, we could hear in his voice that he is in pain and uncomfortable. Once we got there the first thing he told us that he is "feeling very very bad." He has been to the doctor regularly but they can't seem to find something "wrong" with him. He suffers from dizziness, weakness, and lack of hunger (therefore a lack of eating and weight loss). I am afraid there is no diagnosis besides old age. FI was VERY upset with the visit because he can't stand to see him in this kind of shape. And truth be told- I never got to meet either of my grandfathers and I took him as one of my own, and just wanted to cry. I want to be strong for FI. I want to keep a positive outlook on things. But this wedding is rapidly approaching now (little over 3 months) and if his grandpa continues deteriorating like this- he's either going to be Home with God, or just in absolutely no physical shape to come to the wedding. FI is so upset in thinking that his grandpa may not be able to attend- and therefore his grandma as well.
I had the idea yesterday: Since we've already finished our marriage counseling- Pastor says we can get married at any time. I'm thinking- let's keep the wedding for when we have planned, but let's get married soon. We can gather my parents and sister, his mom and his grandparents in their little NYC apartment. Bring our pastor over there and get married right there in front of his grandpa.Even if he is in bed in his pjs, he could witness us getting married. To me its the only option that ensures he is there to witness the marriage.
FI hated the idea when I told him. But I don't know if he really hates the idea of getting married at his parents house- or if he just absolutely hates the idea of his grandpa aging and ailing like he is.
Please pray for us. I dont know what to do. I am losing my strength when I know I have to be strong for FI. I don't know how we can make sure to include his grandpa in the wedding (the wedding is about an hour from where they live). I need prayers for his grandpa, for FI and for me to figure out how to help and deal with all this. I'm just crying out to God to help us.
PS if you girls have ANY idea on what we can do to make sure he sees us get married I'd love the suggestions. I even thought of getting him a computer and having a webcam stream it live. I dunno if this is even possible, but its a thought.
There's only 1 way 2 say those 3 words and that's what I'll do... I love you
