QOTW - Week of 6/5 - Breaking With Tradition

iamjoesgurl

For this week, what traditional wedding things didn't you or won't you do?

fpaemp2011

We're doing a Cord of Three Strands instead of a Unity Candle.

Not doing a garter/bouquet toss- Anniversary Dance instead.

4 Flower Girls, 1 Ring Bearer.

tangela2nd

We are making all of our flowers origami flowers!! FI is SUPER excited!!

porky

I never liked the "giving away of the bride."  Instead of "giving" me to my groom, my parents will present me to him and ask if we accept each other.

letyourselfgo

We are having two flower girls and two ringbearers.

sessionswedding

- We are not "giving away" the bride.  My dad is walking me up, then sitting down.

- We are not having a FG or RB.

- I will have two wedding dresses (changing for the reception).

- We are considering skipping favors.

azdancer8

We did not do the garter or bouquet toss. We also did an anniversary dance as well.

We had two ring bearers but no flower girl.

FaithCaitlin

We're doing quite a few untraditional things:

1. We're getting married at the zoo-- pretty untraditional right there, haha.

2. We're skipping the garter and bouquet toss. 

3. We're seeing each other before the ceremony (first look).

4. BOTH my parents are walking me down the aisle.

5. We're doing a sand ceremony.

6. No FG/RBs/JR. BMs

7. I'm not wearing a veil. Ever. 

I guess that's it!

sprtychick10

1. We are not doing a dollar dance

2. Not having a ring bearer, we are using my niece as a "keeper of the rings"

That's all I can think of for now...

ReebokJ

Almost all traditional!

- We won't see each other until the ceremony.

- Dad is walking me down the isle and giving me away.

- First dance and father-daughter dance (though the father-daughter dance is by no means a slow one!)

- Bouquet and garter toss

On the other hand, we don't have a flower girl or ring bearer. (A 20-year old friend was going to be the flower girl, THAT would have been very untraditional but turns out she'll be in Germany during the wedding). We're also not doing a Unity Candle or anything of the sort. Some of the music is untraditional; for example I'm walking down the isle to Concerning Hobbits (<- clicky). 

iamjoesgurl

We didn't have rice or anything else at the end of the ceremony or reception.

We didn't have a ring bearer. 

I didn't have something blue (for old, new, borrowed, blue)

No bouquet toss/garter toss

No unity candle or other type of unity ceremony

We didn't have toasting glasses for the reception toast.

I didn't wear the veil over my face.

I wore an ivory gown, not white.

That's all I can think of right now.

Edit - No mother/son or father/daughter dance

amongthelilies25

-i dont think i will have a veil (if i do.. it wont be over my face)

- we arent having favors

- my two brothers are walking me down the aisle

- we are JUST having a mother/son dance. (no father/daughter dance)

- i think that is it. 

mrandmrsbrist

No favors.
No giving away of the bride.
No garter/bouquet toss.
No unity ceremony.
No first dance.
No father/daughter dance.
No rice or anything like that. I don't even think we're doing a "traditional" exit.
Only siblings in the wedding party, meaning we have uneven sides.

We're having some non-traditional seating. Our ceremony and reception venue are the same place (airplane hangar) so we essentially have this giant, wide open hall. Instead of splitting it in half, or needing someone to set up tables after the ceremony, we decided to have three or four rows set up at the front for immediate family + grandparents and then have the tables set up so that the altar or whatever is visible to them. So they'll sit there through the ceremony and the reception.

I think that's everything we're not doing or doing that's breaking tradition...

amongthelilies25

i found this on the "offbeat weddings" community. super fun!!! (: hehe

http://wedding.theknot.com/wedding-planning/wedding-ceremony/articles/20-wedding-traditions-you-can-skip.aspx

iamjoesgurl

Monica - that was a fun read and made me think of a few things that I hadn't thought of before.  I think that if I hadn't been part of TK's community, I would have had a more traditional wedding because I wouldn't have thought of some of the ideas that we used for our wedding.

LittleBigO

 - DH and I rode in his truck together to get ready before the wedding (and kissed when we parted ways)
 - First look
 - Blue crinoline under my dress
 - No garter toss (we just gave it to Daddy James)
 - No bouquet toss (we played a song and asked who was married longest and gave it to them)
 - We were suppose to have 2 FG's but had one - no ring bearer
 - My bio-dad didn't walk me, Daddy James did
 - Got married in a bed and breakfast - so weird saying it haha.  It was last minute plan b with the rain and flooding.  :P
 - We took his parents on the HM
 - Daddy James AND my mom kind of gave/presented me to Clint
 - Walked to "1000 Faces" instead of bridal march
 - Walked as Mr. & Mrs. to "Honey Bee" (I think lol)
 - No special departure afer reception (even though we planned one, we stuck around longer than the guests and left the same time as family - I even helped clean a little)
 - We wore cowboy boots.  :P
 - No veil.
 - Blue on the dress lol.
 - MOH and BM picked their own dresses, just the same color
 - All the guests were intermixed, not separated by Bride and Groom and sat on furniture in the next room or same room in the bed and breakfast (couches, chairs etc.)
 - We stood on the bottom step to the stairs.  :P

Ok I'm just gonna stop now haha.  We broke ALL the rules.

AshNoel8

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_qotw-week-of-65-breaking-tradition?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:cc42f1e0-43c0-4406-9ef7-a87e62dcb8ecPost:074dd496-b684-4692-863a-0121083cdcd8">Re: QOTW - Week of 6/5 - Breaking With Tradition</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>We're doing a Cord of Three Strands instead of a Unity Candle. Not doing a garter/bouquet toss- Anniversary Dance instead.</strong> 4 Flower Girls, 1 Ring Bearer.
Posted by fpaemp2011[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>This exactly! Except we only have 1 ring bearer and no flower girls haha. Also, we aren't doing a receiving line or rice/bubbles. We also are not doing a dollar dance. </div>

DramaGeek

We did not use any of the traditional music.  In fact, we recessed to "Take Me Out to the Ball Game" under an arch of bats held by our attendants.

We did all of our photos pre-ceremony

We did not have child attendants

I was not given away.  I wanted the question to be "who blesses and supports this marriage" and for all of our parents to say "we do" but my dad was really sad that I  "took my line away!" as he put it.  So we still had the question "who blesses and supports this marriage?" but my dad answered "their parents do" on behalf of all 4 parents.

No toast by attendants.

No garter or bouquet toss and nothing to replace it, we just didn't do anything.

No mother/son dance.

No veil over my face - although originally i wasn't even going to wear one at all.

We did do a unity candle, but our candle was a glass oil candle that we had etched.

We did not leave to a shower of anything.  There were about 75 guests there when we left and a few of them accompanied us out and waved, but most stayed in and partied.

We also wrote our entire ceremony ourselves, so while it's semi-traditional, it's not the same as anyone else's.

yodacub

No flower girl or ringbearer for us -  we will have our 4 nieces/nephews walking down the aisle ringing bells.  Of course, this is traditional in my family, I'm not sure where it came from though.

NaturalGypsy

Well, we've got a few "non-traditional" things going on:

-My dogs are the RBs
-We're planting a tree sapling together instead of unity candle or sand ceramony
-I'm painting leaves and wildflowers on my dress
-All of my flowers are found/picked wildflowers & grasses
-NO veil, I'm lacing my hair with flowers and found feathers (pheasant, hawk, turkey, osprey, duck) instead
-NO SHOES! All my girls and I are going barefoot! (outdoor wedding)
-Our wedding bands are made out of wood (www.touchwoodrings.com) and we're including how the different types of wood we chose represent each other in our vows
-Instead of throwing rice or blowing bubbles, we're all releasing floating (biodegradable) paper candle lanterns over Lake Michigan at night
-Vegetarian reception dinner!
-We're having a huge bonfire at the reception with a s'more assembly station

That's to name a "few" It's going to be very cheap, but very unique, fun, and unforgetable. I can't wait!!!!

LittleBigO

[QUOTE]Well, we've got a few "non-traditional" things going on: <strong>-My dogs are the RBs</strong> <strong>-We're planting a tree sapling together instead of unity candle or sand ceramony</strong> -I'm painting leaves and wildflowers on my dress -All of my flowers are found/picked wildflowers & grasses -NO veil, I'm lacing my hair with flowers and found feathers (pheasant, hawk, turkey, osprey, duck) instead -NO SHOES! All my girls and I are going barefoot! (outdoor wedding) -Our wedding bands are made out of wood ( <a href="http://www.touchwoodrings.com)" rel="nofollow">www.touchwoodrings.com)</a> and we're including how the different types of wood we chose represent each other in our vows -Instead of throwing rice or blowing bubbles, we're all releasing floating (biodegradable) paper candle lanterns over Lake Michigan at night -Vegetarian reception dinner! -We're having a huge bonfire at the reception with a s'more assembly station That's to name a "few" It's going to be very cheap, but very unique, fun, and unforgetable. I can't wait!!!!
Posted by NaturalGypsy[/QUOTE]

That's so cute!!  DH and I need to plant a tree - I can't wait!!

Reading the rest of your details - I LOVE THEM!!  Perfect outdoor wedding and theme!!  That's so awesome!!

faith415

Our ceremony site doesn't have a center aisle, so we're walking in on one side and out the other with all the guests sitting in the middle section.
Doing all the pics before the ceremony, first look
2 FG, no RB
WP entrance song- I Do by Colbie Calliet
Bridal entrance song- All I Want is You by Vitamin String Quartet
Having a sand ceremony
Playing Don't Stop Belivin' by Vitamin String Quartet
Exiting to You Got Me by Colbie Calliet
No veil!
Quilt guest book
Buffet style dinner
Candy Bar for the favors
Sparkler exit