i'm new here and am posting this family issues here since i think a Christian perspective would help as faith is so linked in my family. anyway. I got engaged about 7 months ago, and while we aren't dealing with wedding plans yet (i'm waiting to graduate with my BSN and my fiancé is looking for a full-time job) we are for the first time in our 5 year relationship spending holidays together. our families compromised on thanksgiving and it was a lot of fun. but now we're working on Christmas. Both our families are very large, and we're each very close with our families. My mom and I are very close, and her opinions/feelings/thoughts matter to me a lot. Well, his family is coming over to my house to be with my side of the family on Christmas day. I was super thrilled about this. Until this morning when he asked if I would come over on Christmas Eve to be with his side of the family. I want to be with him, of course, only this means missing out on Christmas Eve service (my favorite service of the year), and skipping out on our family's traditional dinner after church at a local restaurant. It's a small tradition, but meaningful none-the-less. I'm really torn and feel like i'm between a rock and a hard place. both are important to me, and i know he realizes that. I know traditions have to change, but I'm not sure i am ready for so many of them to change so soon. of course my mom said, "I'm sure you'll figure it out" yet, i know she thinks i am compromising my traditions if I go to his house on Christmas eve. I want her support, but I want my fiancé to be happy too.... and it seems like I can't have both, and either way I 'm going to be thinking about being at the other place no matter what i decide.
sorry this is long, but it's really weighing down on me right now. please don't send negative comments, i really just need some advice from someone who might understand this.... thanks.