I'm being a brat...

SoonToBeGenao

So when we first started talking about bachelorette party, all I wanted to do was have a girls' night out bowling. There is this amazing bowling alley by us that has a DJ and they have the black lights, and games, and its just so much fun! Bowling/dancing I love this place. Besides- my youngest bridesmaid is my "little cousin" who is only 15- so I figured it was a great way to make sure she is included.

My sister who is my MOH insisted we still have a night out in the city, so I agreed to going to this place in NYC that has a mechanical bull and is a lot of fun.

The plan was: a family party with cousins/mom etc bowling, and then a night out in the city with 21+ crew, all my girlfriends.

Well now it looks like we may not be bowling at all, because my mom doesn't think anyone would go, so she is therefore not helping my sister call/invite people and plan it. My mom is trying to convince me not to do it at all and to just go out with my friends.

All i wanted from the beginning was for it to be my close family and bridesmaids out bowling. Now I'm going out into the city with my friends and not even going bowling. POUT.

The party is August 5 and 6, which is less than 2 weeks away now and getting a little too late to start planning. I'm just very grumpy about it and being a bit of a brat. Sorry just needed to vent.

Does anyone else feel like they aren't being heard in something that they really wanted?

AshNoel8

You aren't being a brat! It's your night and you should do what you want to do! I'm sending you a PM! 

mrandmrsbrist

I don't think you're being a brat! I'd tell your mom that this is something you really want. Even tell your friends that you don't want to go to the city, you want to stick with the original plan of bowling because it's important everyone be included. Sorry this is happening!

FI and I joke about the time when "we were still planning the wedding." We've found lists of venues and vendors and things and we just look at it and go "Wow." My mom's best friend (who has been around my entire life) used to plan weddings for a living. I don't know when she became my wedding planner, but she pretty much toook things in a completely different direction than FI and I wanted. And rather than fight it, we went along with it, like idiots.

And the other big thing was the DJ. I don't know if you saw my posts about that a while back, but it was baaaad. My parents kept insisting on having a DJ. First for dancing (FI and I don't dance) and then for "announcing" to "keep things moving along." FI was really against it and even after telling my parents this, they still paid the deposit. It ended up being this huge deal with FI calling my mom. We got our way in the end, but it was still really frustrating to feel like we weren't being heard at all.

Wow, that got long. Sorry!

iamjoesgurl

Who is the trip to NY for?  Will it be fun for you or are you just going along with it because you're supposed to?  I would definitely plan the bowling and if only one other person comes, you'll still have a lot of fun.  But I think your mom is wrong and a lot of people will want to come.

LittleBigO

You're not being a brat!!  Story time...

My sister got married just over a year ago and I'm under 21.  I was her MOH and she wanted to include me and didn't want to go to the bar and wanted me to plan her Bachelorette party.  I ended up being excluded a lot of it, and she hated it, and now she's not even friends with all of her BMs.  Moral of the story - do what you want, and include who you want to include!!  You only get to do it once. 

DramaGeek

If you're being a brat, then we won't say what I am, because I'd probably tell them that if they weren't going to have a party that I liked, they were free to go without me.

SoonToBeGenao

Thanks for all your support! I really felt like a brat for being so pouty but I guess that's ok