I really dont know what to do...
FI and I have met with the Reverend at the church we found that we are pretty excited about attending and doing classes at. We feel the pre-marital counseling will be helpful and I am going to get baptized soon
Yay.
We were going to ask FSIL to be a bridesmaid in our wedding, closer to the date of course. But now I am not so sure that is a feasible option. She was actually my friend first, introduced FI and I, and pretty much nagged both of us until we met each other and really hit it off great.
FI and I had a big fight in February or March, I cannot remember when it was exactly. He was trying to move in with me before he was ready, was not ready for a serious commitment, and some other issues that all festered and blew up at once. Not a big deal, I think every couple goes through that. We fought, said our peace, and it made us even stronger than what we were before. Things are going great and we just recently got engaged.
Now I know I am living in sin, but FI moved back in with me a few weeks ago and we have learned how to grow together as a couple. We have joined a church together, been working out, and really have turned our lives completely around and are so happy with each other. We finally are living the lives we have always wanted. We both recently were offered our dream jobs. We are very blessed right now.
FSIL has become really distant with me and has stopped talking to me since FI and I have gotten serious. We went out last night and one of FI and I's mutual friends asked us what was going on. Apparently, FSIL has been telling people that FI's friends are not hanging out/talking to us because they are "tired of seeing him get treated like garbage." What the heck?
And we told FSIL and FFIL about us joining a church and they pretty much had a meltdown. That FI has changed so much and blah blah blah. And I guess when we first started dating one of FFIL's questions was if I was Christian. FSIL is wiccan/pagan along with several of FI's immediate family members. FI is obviously not and never has been. He has been a Christian but hasnt been to church because he did not like his church.
I dont know what FSIL's problem is talking behind our backs like this. She was a really good friend of mine for 10 years (FI was away at college or was always at his friend's house so I never met him). Granted, FI and I have had some arguments, mostly because of being on different pages in life. But other than our fight in Feb/Mar we have been happy.
I just dont know what to do. We have not told anyone about the engagement yet because we were afraid of the reactions of his family, my divorce to be final, and he wanted to show several people the ring first. ::Sighs:: What a mess.
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