birth control?

GJones27

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[QUOTE]I've actually talked to my gyno about the HBC before when I was on it and she said that it actually does not abort the embryo it just makes it so it doesn't implant.  if you believe that life starts at conception (when sperm meets egg) then this most certainly is an abortion if you are purposefully thinning your uterine lining, making it inhospitable to a fertilized egg.
Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]

I don't think it's so black and white, even if you believe life begins at conception.  As the previous posters mentioned, there are some articles on previous threads where pro-life gynocologists make a persuasive point that the "thinning of the uterine lining" theory is not correct. Basically, your body produces so many hormones when you do release an egg that it builds up the lining of your uterus, which is why women do in fact get pregnant on the pill.

I also posted this a few months ago, but my Orthodox Christian priest said the Pill we're thinking of is not an abortifacient.

Calypso1977

my theory is when in doubt, dont.

if there's even a slim chance im intentionally killing an embryo, i wont do it.  im sick to think about how many i might have destroyed before i understood just how the pill works (i was on it for 10 years)

they say drugs, alcohol and cigarettes can potentially damage a fetus.  so, most of us would refrain from using those things if pregnant.  sure, many women do use tehse while pregnant and have ok pregnancies/children.  but since there's a chance you might not, most of us err on the side of caution.

sessionswedding

I read that a PP said they wanted to use NFP/FAM instead of the pill because they didn't want to reject God's will for them to get pregnant.  Um, if you're using NFP/FAM, isn't that the same thing?  Lol.  But really, it's up to you what you use, I just think there's such stigma around the Pill.  I love being on the Pill.  I'm about to start a slightly new Pill tonight that contains folic acid, which is actually GOOD for baby once you do decide to become pregnant.

SereJane

I will definitely be using BCP. FI and I want to wait a few years to have kids-we are young and I am still in college at the time. Now the question is deciding which pill to use

jenn.daniel

I am currently on a birth control pill.  Without it my acne gets worse again.  I would love to be able to stop taking it though. 

We've agree that FI will get a vasectomy, but I'm disappointed that most doctors won't do it until age 30.  4 years to go...

BrideToBeBecauseHeLovesMe

I used the shot, Depo-Provera and didn't like it at all.  They said my period would stop or be very small but on a schedule and it never did even out - it was completely unpredictable and I was ALWAYS cramping.  FI's mom was on us all the time to get on birth control, even before we did anything - and then we decided to stop crossing the line (thank God for His forgiveness!!) and I stopped getting the shot and now my cycle is all back to normal finally.

As far as the patch - one of my best friends used it for a while but it made her sick so she had to stop.  Although I have heard from other people that they love it. 

As far as when FI and I get married - we're probably going to just use condoms and make sure when he's "ready" that he pulls out to prevent any "uh ohs" as best as we can.  I'd be interested in taking a pill as long as I don't get sick or anything and my period doesn't start getting all over the place.  After we get married and get moved down to AR, I'll have to find a doctor or an OBGYN and talk to them.  But I know FI and I don't want to have any sort of abortion. 

As far as what God has planned - a woman who is like a sister to me, her and her husband were on birth control, she was using nuva-ring, and he had a condom on and they STILL got pregnant so I definitely believe if God wants it, it'll happen.    He won't give you anything you can't handle, but I don't think you should just use no protection or planning all the time lol. 

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is anyone here planning on using 2 forms of BC? 

amongthelilies25

I am currently on a low-dose hormone pill to prevent pregnancy when FI and i get married. I decided to go on it WAAYY before the wedding (about 6 months before) that way if it reacted not well to me..i had time to switch methods before getting married and actually NEEDING birth control. 

so far it has been good...no real side effects. I had a headache for the first few days...and my FSIL says i have mood swings..but i think that is just wedding frustration and not related to my pills. 

i would LIKE to not have to take any hormone-based contraceptive. Uh..but we are SURE that we want to wait to have kids for AT LEAST 3 years. we really want to enjoy our time just the two of us. (: 

condoms are out....i dont want to use them. 

i researched A LITTLE about the natural family planning.... i am gonna look into it more....as of now i can't imagine withholding sex from my FI (or from me!). lol. just being honest. (;

but we will see....as of now i think we will stick with the pill, tho.

amongthelilies25

b2b - be aware of the "pulling out method". there are still small traces of sperm that come out (more often then not without feeling or noticing it)  before a man full ejaculates. those small traces can still get your pregnant.

Pulling out before your husband is "ready" is not a reliable method. 

(:

i know....its like sex ed on here now. lol. 

fpaemp2011

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[QUOTE]i researched A LITTLE about the natural family planning.... i am gonna look into it more....as of now i can't imagine withholding sex from my FI (or from me!). lol. just being honest. (; but we will see....as of now i think we will stick with the pill, tho.
Posted by amongthelilies25[/QUOTE]

This concerned me as well, so I discussed it with FI and am letting him make that call.  I will submit to whatever he decides on this issue.  I do plan on talking to my GYN about a diaphragm whenever I go see her, so that if he decides we should use a barrier, I'll have one and it won't totally be up to condoms.

kellya01

This discussion prompted me to do some searching online, and I found a website that has a pretty complete listing of the many types of birth control methods, including hormonal pills, shots, barriers, NFP, FAM, etc... If you want more information on it, here is the website.  I certainly can't attest to the accuracy of the information but from what I know from a health stand point, it sounds right.  It comes from a Christian perspective as well, which is refreshing.  

http://site.themarriagebed.com/biology/birth-control

There are other links on the website with a LOT of information and I wouldn't suggest clicking too much or you will have sex on the brain for like a week.  Seriously!  Anyway... 

I also wanted to update that my FI and I talked tonight about it and we still aren't sure yet.  I like FAM so far, as far as non-hormonal BC goes, but I also want to investigate my options with pills and how that jives with my faith and belief about abortion.  So... another month or so, and I'll be able to meet with the pastor and with an Ob/Gyn about it all.  :-) 

bibliophile2010

I'm an NFP user (to be -- since I'm charting and not actually "using" it until the wedding; I'm using the Creigton method that was discussed in another post), and just wanted to address the idea of "withholding" sex. Warning, I am Catholic and so my personal/Church's theology colors my thoughts, but I think the morality is more universal than that. Additionally, I am still engaged, so I can only speak for what I've heard, not for what I have experienced.

When using NFP, it should ideally be a situation when the man and woman are in it together. They both determine fertility, they both look at her charts, they both pray to determine whether they should be TTC or TTA. When they make that determination, they simply abstain. There is nothing sinful about abstaining, even during marriage and most married couples abstain at times anyway. Most couples who practice NFP experience a new "courtship" during her fertile time followed by  a new "honeymoon" phase after her fertile period is over, because they are able to have sex again. Is it always easy or fun? No. Is it ultimately worthwhile? Yes.

In the long term, they statistically end up having more sex (because they can't always count on tomorrow), better communication and lower rates of divorce (many factors probably contribute to this final statistic).

If you decide for other reasons that another form of BC is right for you, it is not my place to lecture you. I just don't want you to think of NFP as just "withholding sex," because in my opinion, I agree that that would be terrible.

fpaemp2011

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[QUOTE]They both determine fertility, they both look at her charts, they both pray to determine whether they should be <strong>TTC or TTA. </strong>
Posted by bibliophile2010[/QUOTE]

TTC- Trying to Conceive

TTA- Trying to Avoid

JIC

Thanks for your post!!

amongthelilies25

wow!!! that is awesome!

i am really gonna talk to my FI about this...because NFP is sounding pretty awesome! (: 

joyfulbride424

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[QUOTE]wow!!! that is awesome! i am really gonna talk to my FI about this...because NFP is sounding pretty awesome! (: 
Posted by amongthelilies25[/QUOTE]

If you have any questions just let us know :)

Calypso1977

among, we've been doing NFP for 2 years.  LOVE IT!

jenn.daniel

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[QUOTE]is anyone here planning on using 2 forms of BC? 
Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]

Yes!!!  As I said earlier, I'm on a birth control pill.  The plan now is to use with condoms.  I think FI is interested in not using condoms, so I'm trying to investigate the FemCap.

If I can get off the pill, I'd like to try NFP with condom and/or FemCap. 

Once FI gets a vasectomy, that's all we'll need, though I may still be on the pill for acne....

musicalsunlight

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[QUOTE]I read that a PP said they wanted to use NFP/FAM instead of the pill because they didn't want to reject God's will for them to get pregnant.  Um, if you're using NFP/FAM, isn't that the same thing?  Lol.  But really, it's up to you what you use, I just think there's such stigma around the Pill.  I love being on the Pill.  I'm about to start a slightly new Pill tonight that contains folic acid, which is actually GOOD for baby once you do decide to become pregnant.
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

Thank you, I compltely agree with this logic.