So I have had this friend for about 6 years and we used to be very close. A little over a year ago she started dating this new guy that I and all our friends do not like. Since they started dating she has been GONE! I mean I went from seeing her once a week to seeing her 4 times since last September (2010). She does not call me back and does not show any interest in me or my life. After several attempts, mind you a long time ago, I gave up. I saw her in September because she invited me to her birthday party. I went out of obligation. Well...not a single other one of her friends showed up. She spent half the time interrupting our conversations to makeout with her boyfriend, but then asked me, why I have not asked her to do any wedding stuff. Mind you, I scheduled three wedding events with her and she canceled on me for two (an hour before the event) and no showed for the last. I have not spoke to her since the first week of september (2011). Needless to say i got really excited when I got engaged and asked her to be my bridesmaid and she said yes. But she is no where to be found. my fiance only has three groomsmen, and with the not-s0-friend, I would have 4 bridesmaids. I really wanted to have even numbers and there really is no one else he could ask. So basically, is it ok to let her know that I need to "cut down my wedding party". BTW, she has no connection to any of my other bridesmaids. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I don't really feel like we are friends anymore. I guess it is more like I don't feel like I have anything to loss by telling her I changed my mind. What would you do?