To invite or not to invite??

blondy22L

Hi ladies, 

so i need some advice...my brother just got married in August, I am close with my SIL and got closer to her family during their wedding. She has two sisters who I also enjoying hanging out with but dont often do so outside of past wedding events. My brother and SIL are in the wedding, and we plan on inviting her parents...do we invite her sisters and their husbands too? I also ask because one of the sisters potentially might be doing my and my BM's hair for the big day. So to me that makes it even more complicated, if she does our hair i feel like i might as well invite her and her husband and then the other sister and her hubby too! lol.....please let me know how to handle this! TIA! 

niq24601

Are your SIL's sisters and parents local? Or would they be driving/flying in?

mgoss228

IMO, if it is in your budget, and your SIL's sister will 100% sure be doing your hair, I would invite both sisters and their DHs.

But if your budget and guest list is already tight, I think it would be fine etiquette-wise to not include them on the guest list.  The sister that might be doing your hair, might be a tiny, tiny bit offended.  But if you don't think you'll be seeing them again, besides crossing paths through events with your brother and SIL (when they have kids, etc), I don't think it is the hugest issue.

dizzinea

i think if you have room in the budget and want them there go for it

dreamwinds

Are you paying her to do your hair? If so, there is no real obligation to invite her, but given that you do know her and are on good terms with her, she might feel a little abused if she does your hair and cannot stay to celebrate.

Basically, I agree with what mgoss said.

blondy22L

thanks everyone, all good points...yes, everyone is local and yes i am paying the sister to do our hair. my mom is a hair stylist though and a friend from her work offered to do it for cheaper than the sister. I want to include them but we are already over on our guest list so adding the parents, sisters and DH's would be 6 more people. I guess its good to know its not a must to include them, but it would be nice to. Thanks again for the help, hopefully i can figure something out soon since the sister is still waiting on a firm "yes you are doing my hair" for the wedding.