dh and i have a fabulous sunday planned, with a day trip and brunch at a fabulous restaurant (that is NOT picadilly). dh wants to be all secret about it because we're going to a place that we normally go with friends.i hate that we have to feel like we are hiding this trip because it's possible our friends will be hurt that we didn't invite them. we should be allowed to go wherever without having to hide it, like we are secret lovers or something.this is also a major reason why depressed friend ruth was driving me crazy. "you went to the movies? why didn't you invite me? i HATE you." why can't people just be okay with what i want to do and not make it all about them? yes, i realize that i am making a big deal over nothing and that i am being pre-emptively hateful.