I'm so being a brat...

mrsconn23

But there's a part of me that does not care...A long, long time ago (like early this year), when my mother had her previous job, she was going to take the kiddo for his fall break (which is today-Friday) and they were going to Texas. Well that fell through, then my mom was just going to keep him at her house for the weekend.  Then, that fell through and I ended up taking tomorrow and Friday off work.  We were going to head up to my parent's house on Friday and do Halloween at my parents house. Then my mom got her job down here and has to work on Saturday.  SO, we decided to move Halloween down here to our house.  My sisters, my nephew, BIL, lil' sis's BF, and my parents are all coming over.  My sister was going to make one part of dinner, I was going to make another, and then lil' sis was going to bring dessert.  The kids were going trick or treating, my dad was going to pass out candy...Whatever. SO now DH wants to have his parents over because they want to see the kiddo for Halloween.  Oh and DH's grandpa and his wife are in town and they're coming over too. At first, we were going to meet my IL's and GPIL and his wife for lunch or something on Saturday.  But no, they want to be part of t-o-t-ing.   It's turning into a damn circus.  I know that I'm blowing 4 extra people out of proportion, but I'd rather not have my IL's over.  I can't tell DH that though.  It's stressing me out.  We just hosted a party last weekend that DH wanted to have.  And now we're having a whole other mess of people over this weekend.  I need to stop this.  I need to learn to go with the flow.  All I can think is that the IL's were never going to be part of Halloween, especially if we were going to be OOT.  GAH, I'm pissed at myself for feeling so selfish. I'm just irritating myself by knowing that it's no big deal, but still feeling stressed. It's a freaking vicious cycle.

hmonkey

i'm sorry.but also, HEE.I know that I'm blowing 4 extra people out of proportion .

baconsmom

So - there's going to be one kid and like 17 adults t-o-ting? I'd be irritated, too, frankly. I thought it was ridiculous when my parents visited and we had a 1:4 ratio of kid-to-adult. Are there any Halloween t-o-ting events you could do that wouldn't be so hard on you? Boo at the Zoo, mall t-o-ting, Halloween Streets, anything like that? Everyone meeting at an event, at an outside location, might help your stress level, and it would be easier to organize, I would think.

mrsconn23

IDK who all will be going with the kids, but I do know that it will probably be at least 3 adl : 1 kid, if not more. My parents and my IL's are not friends.  They get along all right.  My dad and FIL get along pretty well.  DH's grandpa and his wife are interesting characters.  GPIL's wife can be a bit much at times.  MIL has social anxiety and on top of that, I think my mother intimidates her (which I'm not sure I completely understand), so she'll probably not even talk at all really.  ::sigh:: I know that I'm stressing out about this and it's going to turn out just fine in the end.   But writing this all out helps.  Because usually, I'd just freak out on DH and then he'd get mad at me and then we'd fight about it before we came to an equitable solution.

citrusbride09

You're not being a brat. I would be annoyed, especially because my H likes to say "we should have people over" which actually means he calls people and says come over, and I end up making sure the apartment is clean, we have snacks, clean glasses, alcohol and drinks for those that don't drink. By the time people come over, I've been running around and he's watching tv. I think finding somewhere else that is not your house is a great idea. And I don't know why all those people have to go trick or treating.