for a lot of reasons MIL thought DH had asperger's?! --> I sent my MIL a message on FB asking for family medical history stuff, because DH is just awful with those kinds of things... She listed what she knew and said both DH and his aunt suffer from something similar to asperger's but never met full criteria for it, and that when he was little the shrink that saw him diagnosed him with borderline personality disorder (i'm familiar with this and it doesn't seem like DH at all, i mean, you can find yourself in any of the personality disorders if you look hard enough). MIL told me to look up aspergers on webmd, and she said that's what he was like as a kid in many ways. I always have known that DH is a homebody and is socially awkward in some ways, but aren't we all? (he's not HORRIBLY socially awkward, but he does get anxious in social situations) He also doesn't have many friends, and since we started dating, nevermind our wedding a year ago, he has only seen 2 of his friends (the only 2 of his friends he invited that showed up to our wedding, although he only invited 8 ppl, literally). I attributed this to a) he likes to be alone and is a homebody, so where's he gonna make friends? and b) who cares, as long as he's happy? and c) our wedding was not formal in any way, it was on Halloween and it was simple and it was really a party more than a wedding. Now I'm panicking.