H is peeved

**O-Face**

H made a pair of handgrips for his brother for his birthday.  These grips are for a gun that BIL has been looking at for several months.  He works really hard and will get about 80% of the money for his bday to purchase the gun.  H spent probably ~5 hrs on these grips and gave them to BIL yesterday.  BIL was thrilled and showed them to his wife, SIL.SIL just gives him the "WTF" look and yells, "YOU are NOT buying that!!!!".  In front of everyone.Okay?  H felt that she was a b*tch and I really can't figure out why she's freaking out about this purchase with HIS own money.I mean, H spent all that time on the handmade gift and now SIL is telling BIL what to buy with his own money.And then later, SIL says..."oh my gah, I'm hosting a purse party, you guys HAVE to come".  WHA?

Wonderw1fe

They're both doing it wrong. Wanting to buy a gun = discuss with your wife first. There is no "his own money" for stuff like that.

6fsn

Well that was certainly rude of your SIL.

**O-Face**

He already has several guns and they've discussed at length, and she can't come up with a reason besides, "Because".

VarunaTT

I'm with Ww on this one.  Guns are something that should be discussed, not just I'm buying it with my own money, so neener, neener.Actually, I have a story about this.

fishgirl77

That's obnoxious.  There are a couple of guns that H would like to own that I said I did not want in the house.  But I wouldn't have said something like that in front of other people.  Particularly since there was a gift from someone else involved.

**O-Face**

See, I can understand giving him the silent "no way" look, but blurting that out in front of everyone?NO tact.

Wonderw1fe

We already have TVs, but if DH came home with a 60" flatscreen talking about "I used my own money," we'd have a serious problem.

**O-Face**

They have discussed it and there really is no logic, but again-I'm not privy to their conversation.

**O-Face**

What are you talking about blargh?  Selling? 

PMeg819

1. I'm with Blargh, you said your DH made his brother a gift for his birthday but then he paid for them? WTF kind of gift is that?2. Birthday money is DH's money. I don't care what he spends it on because it was gifts for him. Now, if DH spent money that wasn't part of a gift then there would be issues.

VarunaTT

Well yes, she shouldn't have yelled that.  But, you have no idea if she'd disagreed with him purchasing the gun beforehand.  And while it's nice of your DH to have made them, it's not his place to be pissed that SIL doesn't want husband to buy that gun for whatever reason it is.I don't know why you're freaked about the purse party.  Although that just sounds weird.  WTH is a purse party anyway?  Sounds boring as hell, if it's like a Tupperware party.

PMeg819

First,  handgrips are not a gun. If her DH made handgrips, it's an accessory for the gun. I think it's retarded for a S/O to dictate what someone spends with birthday money for a gift. If that person buys stupid sh!t, then I'd be rethinking the relationship in general.

LnR70707

I agree...guns are not a cheap purchase...if I went out and bought a pair of manolos, you can bet it wouldn't fall under the "it's my money" category.  However, SIL could of had bit more tact.

ReturnOfKuus

He's married - there is no "his own money" any more.

**O-Face**

No one paid anyone for grips.  So that is just out.I think it's more the fact that I would never tell DH what to spend his birthday money on, and he wouldn't do the same for me.  Yes, guns have big implications, but he is already a gun owner, and I think it's more the rudeness of her blurting stuff out and telling him what to do with is money.

GBCK

I'm side-eying this whole 'there is no 'his' money' attitude. yeah, because I"m going to clear my every book purchase w/ the Mr. *eye roll* Yeah, there's a $$$ limit but, she married a dude who enjoys firearms. He has his budget of 'mad money' from his birthday. I'm side-eying the veto power... seems akin to the Mr. saying I can't buy Dawkins because he doesn't like the man.

**O-Face**

It's hard to find a comparison with a large purchase like a gun, but I don't think it's fair for her to tell him what to buy with is bday money either.

GBCK

Ok, then it would be like "the Mr. got $200 for his birthday...normally, we spend birthday money on whatever he wants but...he wants an XBOX. and that just rots the brain, so NO Video games for him!" (which, would be incredibly dumb, seeing as I married a gamer who, you know, buys games.)