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Left Out

Two of my friends just got engaged (one of which is my best friend and I am her maid of honor) and they plan to have their wedding at about the same time next year.  My issue is that there has been months of planning and I've been left out of everything.  The only time I am made aware of details (including the bridesmaid dress, accessories, location, date, etc.) is in passing or if I overhear one of their converstions.  I am happy for both of them, but it is a little difficult to constantly see/hear that I have been completely left out of planning/helping with my bestfirends wedding.  My boyfriend tells me that I should say something, but I'm now really sure it's my place to say anything because it is her wedding.  Any advice would help!  Thanks :)

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    Ask if they need any help with the planning.
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    I have been very willing to help with anything and have asked several times; but unfortunately, typical response is that they have already taken care of it.
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    Why do you want to be involved so badly?
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    She is my best friend and we have talked about this stuff for years and what we would do together.  Now that it is actually happening, I'm not a part of it.  It just hurts.
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    edited June 2012
    What is stopping you from just asking how the wedding is shaping up? If you want to be involved in the planning itself, offer to help in some way. There's no social faux pas involved in asking questions about it, or offering help. If you start telling her what to do, that's when you've overstepped.

    ETA: Sorry, I think I was writing while you were.
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