WR. But not MY wedding.

jennyann28

So..... if you guys knew that one of your friends was engaged, you'd invite BOTH to your wedding, right?  I mean, it's my understanding that engaged/married couples are one social unit, so you don't invite one without the other.

FI got an invitation to a wedding reception (the actual wedding was in NYC) addressed to Mr. Keith FIlastname.  There is no mention of me, or even "and guest" anywhere!  The RSVP deadline is very soon, and FI thinks that he can just say we're both coming.  But I don't really feel comfortable with that, because, well, I know that wedding etiquette says the invite is for the person it is addressed to, unless stated otherwise.

I told FI that if he wants us to go, he needs to just ask.  Is that what you'd do?  Just have him ask?  Also, am I being a bridezilla for being totally annoyed by this?

mgoss228

Your FI should ask his friend to have you tag along(via phone, email, facebook, whatever is most convenient for him), but yeah... that friend is really lagging behind in the wedding etiquette area.  This would piss me off too, especially if you guys have lived together/been in committed relationship for a while.

Kahalagurl

Do you know the people who invited your FI? if so, they should have included u in the invite. the only reason u should not be included is if they have no idea of ur existance.
I think the best way to address it is to have FI call them up and ask. No beating about the bush on this one... im curious to hear the outcome of this... keep up posted.

sarack

if you know the people, they should have invited you too. i think you should just go.. what are they gonna do? kick you out? no.. you are a social unit. you are invited too..

jennyann28

I actually don't really want to go, but that's beside the point.  I'll go if FI wants to (it's his friend), if I am invited.  I've never met the couple, but they definitely know FI is engaged (I think we've been engaged longer than they have).  I think I am extra-annoyed because I made sure when we were doing our guest list to ask FI about his friends' significant others, and to get their names.

BrandyL10

Make him call. That's my advice. They should have included you if they know about you and if they didn't either yeah, their etiquette sucks and they just assumed you guys would figure it out, but that's not the right way to do it. I think we ALL know that, lol! Make your man ask.

jennlin

i think calling is best. yes, it's rude of the couple to not invite you, but she must just not be knot-savvy like us...

mrsthieltobe