FU

bfuller1085

You guys are so like, awesome like. I wish I could like, have your perfect lives.

Cant_wait!

WHY are you facebook friends with your MIL? And WTF would you take the drama to facebook? ew.

PMeg819

Anyways, you're not ugly. You're hair will grow out in time for the wedding. Just have a cup of tea and a cry and it will be better.

Wait, what are we talking about here?

jojobrn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_am-alone-really-long-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:22cc7766-59a0-42c6-ac49-873922285d5bPost:36ec2d85-db9a-491c-a8d3-2619275e64f7">Am I alone?? REALLY Long Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]I hate my FMIL. And I can hear my own mother saying "Sweetie, you dont HATE anyone, thats a very strong word!" Well, sometimes its an understatement. Im going to make this as short a story as possible as my anger has been slowly building over the past 2 years. My FIs ex is a psycho. All of my FS&BILs hated her, my FMIL hated her, and they all voiced it plain and clear when we started dating. Psycho used to call FI every other weekend at 4am, drunk, and shed scream & curse at him, then cry & ask why they couldnt be friends. Then she'd run at the mouth about me (we've never met) and tell him how ugly I was (shes seen 1 pic on fb) and she talk sh!t about his mother and yada yada. This went on for almost 6 months. FI and I bought a house and were engaged around 9mo into dating. FMIL felt it necessary to call psycho and tell her what was going on with us. FI yelled at her telling her its none of pyschos business b/c they havent been together for almost THREE YEARS. FMIL apologized and promised to cut ties with her. She hasn't. As it turns out she has been updating psycho on everything...wedding, family stuff, house stuff, etc. WOW! So a few days ago I find this all out and that she has sent psycho family photos as an update. I found this out b/c psycho thanked FMIL on facebook (and yes I know this is psychos way of trying to dig at me and in some f'ed up way split me and FI) well, its not working b/c FI and I have created a stronger bond and it actually tearing us from his mother. Against my better judgement I post a fb status about how I am "done with the two-faced bs. This b!tch was finally falling out of the family loop and you decide to kiss her a$$ and bring her back in. Screw you, Im done!" Well FMIL cursed me out and made the whole thing...all of the psycho issues...MY fault! What?! Then left a threatening "you had better not ever talk about me like that again Got it?!" comment on my page, which I deleted and she reposted. To which FI called her and told her that if she ever dared threaten his future wife again he'd ruin her (aka never see her future grandkids or us) and told her to lose her pride and drop the psycho, whom she hated anyways! Well FMIL started crying b/c I "called her all sorts of mean names". I called her two-faced...b/c she is. Now Im sure none of you are going through THAT big a drama, but am I alone in hating my FMIL? My coworkers ask why I'm marrying into this....uuuuh b/c I love the man! Im just going insane and I can't take her and I dont even want her at the wedding anymore!
Posted by bfuller1085[/QUOTE]

<div>Nope, I love my MIL.</div><div>
</div><div>But really, the FB post? That was immature, and you know it. Grow up, don't respond in kind to you FMIL, and stop updating her on everything so she has less to tell the Ex. At least your FI is standing up to her.</div>

Butter Cookie

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_am-alone-really-long-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:22cc7766-59a0-42c6-ac49-873922285d5bPost:36ec2d85-db9a-491c-a8d3-2619275e64f7">Am I alone?? REALLY Long Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]I hate my FMIL. And I can hear my own mother saying "Sweetie, you dont HATE anyone, thats a very strong word!" Well, sometimes its an understatement. Im going to make this as short a story as possible as my anger has been slowly building over the past 2 years. My FIs ex is a psycho. All of my FS&BILs hated her, my FMIL hated her, and they all voiced it plain and clear when we started dating. Psycho used to call FI every other weekend at 4am, drunk, and shed scream & curse at him, then cry & ask why they couldnt be friends. Then she'd run at the mouth about me (we've never met) and tell him how ugly I was (shes seen 1 pic on fb) and she talk sh!t about his mother and yada yada. This went on for almost 6 months. FI and I bought a house and were engaged around 9mo into dating. FMIL felt it necessary to call psycho and tell her what was going on with us. FI yelled at her telling her its none of pyschos business b/c they havent been together for almost THREE YEARS. FMIL apologized and promised to cut ties with her. She hasn't. As it turns out she has been updating psycho on everything...wedding, family stuff, house stuff, etc. WOW! So a few days ago I find this all out and that she has sent psycho family photos as an update. I found this out b/c psycho thanked FMIL on facebook (and yes I know this is psychos way of trying to dig at me and in some f'ed up way split me and FI) well, its not working b/c FI and I have created a stronger bond and it actually tearing us from his mother. Against my better judgement I post a fb status about how I am "done with the two-faced bs. This b!tch was finally falling out of the family loop and you decide to kiss her a$$ and bring her back in. Screw you, Im done!" Well FMIL cursed me out and made the whole thing...all of the psycho issues...MY fault! What?! Then left a threatening "you had better not ever talk about me like that again Got it?!" comment on my page, which I deleted and she reposted. To which FI called her and told her that if she ever dared threaten his future wife again he'd ruin her (aka never see her future grandkids or us) and told her to lose her pride and drop the psycho, whom she hated anyways! Well FMIL started crying b/c I "called her all sorts of mean names". I called her two-faced...b/c she is. Now Im sure none of you are going through THAT big a drama, but am I alone in hating my FMIL? My coworkers ask why I'm marrying into this....uuuuh b/c I love the man! Im just going insane and I can't take her and I dont even want her at the wedding anymore!
Posted by bfuller1085[/QUOTE]


No, I'm not going through that drama, because my MIL is awesome and I don't use facebook as a passive aggressive medium.

NOLABridesmaid

Oh! Not the ol' FB, again.

Butter Cookie

Oh, and if the family is psycho enough you should rethink the man who stays in contact with them. xMIL sure sped up the process for me and xH

TheDuckis

You brought this on yourself. You can't be angry at your FMIL for saying things on facebook when you're the one who started it.

Also this is a really dumb thing to hate someone over.

Also, I think zilla has a story about a decapitated flower girl that proves that no, your drama isn't THAT big. It's insignificant and idiotic.

bfuller1085

I admitted it was against my better judgement and it was removed within the hour. I saw her nasty reply b/c I had gotten on to take it down. 

But Im glad that of everything the psycho ex has done and the fact that FMIL contacts her monthly to update her on everything thats going on with us....fb is what you guys got out of it. Thats awesome. Next time Ill find a group who isn't comprised of perfect people.

**O-Face**

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[QUOTE] Next time Ill find a group who isn't comprised of perfect people.
Posted by bfuller1085[/QUOTE]

Yes, you should do that.

jojobrn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_am-alone-really-long-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:22cc7766-59a0-42c6-ac49-873922285d5bPost:fda69034-f9d3-4c4f-81a0-045ac16ad6b5">Re: Am I alone?? REALLY Long Vent!</a>:
[QUOTE]I admitted it was against my better judgement and it was removed within the hour. I saw her nasty reply b/c I had gotten on to take it down.  But Im glad that of everything the psycho ex has done and the fact that FMIL contacts her monthly to update her on everything thats going on with us....fb is what you guys got out of it. Thats awesome. Next time Ill find a group who isn't comprised of perfect people.
Posted by bfuller1085[/QUOTE]

<div>Well here's the thing, you can't control her behavior. You can only control yours. Which is what we focused on. Like I said, be the adult.</div>

TheDuckis

Psycho ex is a non-issue. Why does it matter what she knows? Change your numbers and block her from facebook. Your MIL can talk to her all she wants and it's not going to change your relationship, so WhoTF cares?

**O-Face**

Best response EVER!

katorigasuki

seriously? you called you MIL out on fb?

you best get your apologizing on, because regurdless of what she's done, fb is never the appropriate place to vent about family.  you may as well have used a bullhorn and !tched about her in the middle of rush hour to everyone within earshot.

katorigasuki

like, omg, you're so ready to get married.

Heffalump

In your world, are those the only two options?  Perfection, and leaving snotty passive-aggressive notes to your fMIL on FB? 

Because, you know, there's actually a pretty wide gulf between those two, and that's where us functional people live.  Thank you for visiting, though.  It was pretty entertaining.

Butter Cookie

Hah! So what did you want, exactly? A time machine? Because if I had a time machine, I'd go back and change my own life first.

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]right. and you seem perfectly sane. now i have to start thinking that you're the psycho, bfuller. i enjoyed that the entire original story is about smacktalk, and <strong>she deleted because she thinks that we're all focusing on the wrong thing</strong>.
Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]
Tried to delete, anyway.  No such luck.  Unlike, say, with her FB comments to her fMIL.  Oh, wait...never mind.

TheDuckis

We are awesome, thanks for noticing. But none of us claim to have perfect lives, we're just smart enough not to air our family problems on facebook.

jojobrn

Yes, deleting your post shows us just how much better you are than us. Yeah.

MinM

bfuller 'o' shyt.

Butter Cookie

On the bright side your proposal story is kind of cute.

We are your typical pizza and beer kind of people. We love our small town pizza shop, so much so that we were going there almost 4 times a week. Well, I work with my mother so one day after work she suggests Josh and I go to Robbie Ts (our pizza place) with her, my dad, and my sister. When we get there Josh orders a large mushroom pizza before anyone can blink. I got a bit snippy with him asking "Do you wanna ask everyone else what they want first?!" He looks around and everyone agrees to the pizza. We sat down and no more then 10 min later Robbie is calling Josh to come grab his pizza. He walked over, set it on the table and got down on his knee. Now all I could think was 'what the hell are you doing on the floor?! Get up!' Then I see the pizza. The mushrooms were spread out so weird and there isnt nearly as much as normal. Then I see the "?" written in mushrooms. Then i catch the "Will you marry me?", written entirely in mushrooms (my favorite). I turned a million shades of red and couldnt help but laugh as everyone took pictures. But I said 'Of course!'

MinM

Nothing says forever like fungus!

Heffalump

BC, maybe she needs to send fMIL a pizza with "sorry for being a twat" spelled out in mushrooms.

Us too, while she's at it.

Butter Cookie

I'm not a fan of mushrooms either, but I suppose it's no worse than slaughtered animal. Maybe slightly worse than say... black olives or peppers or broccoli or something.

And Heffa, I'm not a fan of mushrooms

TheDuckis

I love proposal stories that start with the proposee being pissed off about nothing. Warms my heart.

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]I love proposal stories that start with the proposee being pissed off about nothing. Warms my heart.
Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]
Maybe she could spell it out with sausage, then?  Or peppers?

Damn, now you're making me crave pizza.

Cant_wait!

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[QUOTE]You guys are so like, awesome like. I wish I could like, have your perfect lives.
Posted by bfuller1085[/QUOTE]
I'm not perfect, but I'm also not facebook friends with my MIL. HTH! EABOD!

Butter Cookie

Pizza does sound delicious. Do you have a favorite place Heffa? You don't have to say here, I don't want [other] crazy people to stalk you.

jojobrn

How clearly can one write out Will you marry me on a pizza in mushrooms? I can't imagine it was all that easy to read.

Cant_wait!

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[QUOTE]How clearly can one write out Will you marry me on a pizza in mushrooms? I can't imagine it was all that easy to read.
Posted by jojobrn[/QUOTE]
Maybe it was in morse code? half mushroom full mushroom full mushroom and so on.