Wedding is put on hold most likely.. :(

quirkygrl16

We have only been engaged for about three weeks so naturally we are excited to get planning. I've found a venue,photographer,etc,etc. My family said they would pay and after telling them this and the prices they say "I don't have the money. You wedding is in a year I don't know why you need to book them now." They don't understand things fill up.

I even suggested getting married at a local park, but then they say they want somewhere nicer. They also keep saying i'm caring too much about impressing my fiance's family...

My fiance and I are just over it. As of now, I don't even want to plan a wedding anymore. I'd be fine just going to the court house... I just want to be married to my fiance.... But I guess we will just save up the money the next couple of years and do it ourselves when we can afford it...

flower_diva

save the big blow out wedding for an anniversary celebration when you are able to pay for it.  you can get married anywhere,a beautiful park,beach,chapel.  Just make it special for the two of you.....invite only those you really need to.

SB1512

If you want to be married now, plan the wedding you can afford.  This may mean doing a brunch instead of an evening wedding.  Or cake and punch at non mealtime instead of a full blown sit down dinner.  Or having a late ceremony (8pm-ish) and then doing a dessert reception.  Or if you have the space do a backyard reception, and see what restaurants would charge for catering.  Or you could go to a courthouse, or find a JOP to marry you on a beach, in a park, etc.  Just make sure that if you go that route anyone you invite to the ceremony must be thanked in some way afterwards (take them out to lunch or dinner)

NeedWeddingFavors

Why do you expect your family to pay? The way it looks to me, you have two choices, get married now with whatever money you have, or wait until your family has the money you expect them to have and go along with their conditions.

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]I'd be fine just going to the court house... I just want to be married to my fiance.... But I guess we will just save up the money the next couple of years and do it ourselves when we can afford it...
Posted by quirkygrl16[/QUOTE]
These are both good options.  Counting on people who are already balking at the cost, not so much.  I've seen these stories here, and they tend not to end well.

quirkygrl16

Ladies: I'm fine planning a affordable wedding, I really am but then my mom says "We don't want you to have a cheap wedding,etc,etc"
They also HATE my fiance's family and are upset they are not helping pay for anything..  and keep saying i'm trying to impress them..

gmcr78

I think it's time to put your foot down and refuse to accept money from your parents, then. Clearly you can't please them.  
I find it very contradictory that they don't like that you're "trying to impress" your FI's family (according to them), yet they don't want you to have a "cheap" wedding. Who's trying to impress whom?
At this point, if I were you, I'd just go ahead with your FI and plan the wedding you want and can afford, and politely refuse help or input from your family.  If they bring up wedding talk, change the subject. 

quirkygrl16

Thank goodness everything worked itself out now. The venue is half off because we want a sunday, so it's doable!  Now the only problem is the in laws refuse to pay for anything...or even help with anything....... They just expect to show up.