ARGH! My parents drive me crazy...

bjohnnie05

I love my parents.  Alot.  And I appreciate that they are going to be paying for the bulk of our wedding.  But they are so slow about things.  I got an email from my wedding planner today, saying that our favorite venue has already been booked for our date next October.  We toured that venue back in May, and I had been asking my parents about giving me a deposit since June.  Now, I either have to move my date back a week (and put it on the adjacent weekend to my FI's cousin's wedding) or I have to pick a new venue.  

I called my mom to tell her that our date was taken for our preferred venue, and that we need some money for a deposit so that we can snatch up the next venue that we like, but instead of listening to me, she just spent the whole time complaining about my sister's kids.  Ugh.  Sorry, I really needed to whine about that.  

TheDuckis

Put the money down yourself.

Wonderw1fe

Take the hint: they're not going to pay.

*Barbie*

be prepared to pay for your own wedding. this is a good place to start. 

6fsn

Agreed with the others.  Take this as a sign that they won't be paying for anything.  Plan accordingly.

katorigasuki

1. it's "A Lot" two words.
2. your parents are not going to pay for your wedding.  start making payments on your own.

PeonyPrincesskdd

you can also change your date.. if you didn't book anything else yet..

RebeccaB88

They aren't paying.  Put it down yourself.

amaseya

I second what everyone else said. They know what a wedding costs, if they wanted to pay, they would have given you money by now. I'm sorry to be blunt, but that's the way it is.

ChandraDee

They may want to pay but when it comes to things you really want, be prepared to put down the deposit, at least...that way there is no argument or confusion.  You can say, "I already put down a deposit".  I am having a similar problem with my future in-laws.  They are insisting on paying for everything and feel that gives them the right to choose everything (even though we did not ask for their help).  And feel this also gives them the right to take their time and be wishy-washy when we only have one month till the wedding!  Then they have the nerve to ask if we have our responsiblities taken care of?  Ugh!

Heffalump

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_argh-parents-drive-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:248d6dd6-cd7e-4a5d-bf99-d282fbd2aee4Post:ba114e08-edb9-4faf-bba9-02c987ab17da">Re: ARGH! My parents drive me crazy...</a>:
[QUOTE]They may want to pay but when it comes to things you really want, be prepared to put down the deposit, at least...that way there is no argument or confusion.  You can say, "I already put down a deposit".  I am having a similar problem with my future in-laws.  They are insisting on paying for everything and feel that gives them the right to choose everything (even though we did not ask for their help).  And feel this also gives them the right to take their time and be wishy-washy when we only have one month till the wedding!  Then they have the nerve to ask if we have our responsiblities taken care of?  Ugh!
Posted by ChandraDee[/QUOTE]
ChandraDee, your posts are so lame.  You keep posting everywhere how your ILs are basically forcing you to let them pay for the wedding--unless they held a gun to your head, you let them.  Put on some big girl panties and start accepting the consequences of your decisions.

And OP, yeah, you're paying for this wedding yourself.  Look at it as a blessing in disguise.

NOLABridesmaid

Maybe they don't have the money.

PeonyPrincesskdd

Maybe before they chose a wedding date they should have saved a little more money so that THEY COULD pay for their own wedding, instead of expecting and assuming that mommy and daddy would take care of it.  That wasn't very smart of them.

bjohnnie05

Wow....so what I'm getting from the responses, is that I shouldn't expect a wedding at all.  We can't afford to pay ourselves, so I guess we should just elope.  Sorry I bothered posting.  

PeonyPrincesskdd

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_argh-parents-drive-crazy?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:248d6dd6-cd7e-4a5d-bf99-d282fbd2aee4Post:0f6f8e45-6710-4930-91a5-27612e9fe011">Re: ARGH! My parents drive me crazy...</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow....<strong>so what I'm getting from the responses, is that I shouldn't expect a wedding at all.  We can't afford to pay ourselves,</strong> so I guess we should just elope.  Sorry I bothered posting.  
Posted by bjohnnie05[/QUOTE]

IThis is why when you first got engaged you should have been saving up and setting aside some money for the wedding.  You just assumed your parents would foot the entire bill for you and you wouldn't contribute at all.  Maybe you should look into a less expensive catering hall.. something more reasonable.  You can pay yourselves if you choose less expensive things,.

Mioh1

or you can take out a loan? Though a lot of people will also tell you that it's a bad idea. A small loan wouldn't be that bad. Just pay it off as soon as possible.

brhinkle

i agree with the pp... pay for it yourself saves the hassle!!!