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hmonkey

Dear Amy: For several years I was very close to someone who made it clear that her technique to becoming rich was to marry wealthy, and then, after a few years, obtain a divorce.

She also made it clear that she was completely serious in this ambition. For obvious reasons, I have distanced myself from this person; however, we still occasionally contact each other.

The last time we talked, I found out that she had become engaged. Guess what — the fiance has a lucrative job and belongs to a wealthy family.

I'm wondering if I have any responsibility to inform the man of his future wife's intentions. I have no doubt that she will carry out her plan. I know it would be smart to stay out of this, but if I were the man, I would certainly want to be informed of any impending disaster.

Your thoughts?

DG1

eh. he's a grown-up (i hope). He gets to make his own mistakes.

If the LW is actually friends with the groom-to-be, I change my answer.

tawillers

I would say stay out of it.  This guy isn't going to believe some crazy stranger and it doesn't seem like they're friends anymore anyway.

zsazsa-stl

ditto DG

And...note to self:  Do not tell friends about secret plans, or at least not friends with a moral compass.

DG1

What did Amy say?  She'll still never hold a candle to carolyn hax, but I am beginning to warm up to her a little.

6fsn

Stay out of it.  If his family is really that wealthy I bet there is a prenup.

hmonkey

Dear Former: Unless there is a health issue involved, you do not have a responsibility to report this. You don't know this man, nor do you have any recent evidence about your former friend's devious master plan.

Furthermore, despite what you say, I can't imagine that if you were in this man's well-heeled shoes you would actually welcome being informed of this impending disaster.

Examine your motivations carefully and know that there is a high likelihood that as the messenger of this bad news, you will be blamed and judged for malicious interference.

entropicbeauty

Seriously? All he has to do is NOT grant her the divorce if that day ever came. Unless he's abusing her, no court of law will grant a divorce if both parties don't agree to it. It'll be tough luck for her.