Wedding Woes

So overwelmed..... :(

I am so overwelmed!  My wedding is in five months, and up until now the planning has been going smoothly, everything was just swell.  I am a substitute teacher and a writer, so I could make time to do what needed to be done.  Lucky, right?

Well now that it is approaching crunch time everything feels like it is falling apart.  My FI got a promotion that is so far taking him away from home for two weeks out of the month (right now he is in Calgary for 2 weeks, and then Las Vegas for 4 days.  He will only be home for about 70 hours in between).  Meanwhile, my friend asked me to run her summer camp at the daycare where she is a directer, and the money is needed so I agreed, but it is requiring a lot of serious planning (lesson plans, field trips, etc.).  And I have a deadline for my book by the 1st of July and I still need 20,000 words for my 1st draft...... and my sister has gone off the deep end, dropped out of the wedding, and now her two teenage children are living with my other sister and my parents, so I am trying to help out since I couldn't take one (I took her cat lol) and both teenagers are seriously messed up and requiring all sorts of parental guidence, if you know what I mean............

AND my "good" sisters mother in law and babysitter has recently passed away (so sad all on its own) and now my sister wants my mother and me to divy up daycare duties because she can't afford to put her kids in daycare b/c she and her husband just bought a 36 foot camper.  So now I am being pressured to give up my afternoons on Tuesdays, Thursdays, and Fridays even though that is when I work on my book.  My mother is watching them during the day, but she is not well and she can't keep doing it..... and my sister is on-call on weekends so I feel like I can't make any plans those weekends......

My "good" sister is my MOH but she is too busy to help me with any wedding duties.  My mom is giving me her all, however. 

I still have a lot of wedding stuff that needs doing, and my FI is away so much that he can't help that much, and I will be really busy all summer running the summer camp, and I am getting married in October.  We haven't gotten a limo, I don't have all the favors, I don't have my dress yet, the honeymoon isnt booked, I need to revisit the baker and the florist and on and on.  And it is pretty much me and my mom, when she is not dealing with my other sisters and their kids and her own life. 

Anyway, I feel better now.  I will take a deep breath....... ahhh....
Any suggestions on how to get myself organized?  It is too late to "simplify", we are having a small wedding already, and I have already spent a lot of money so I don't want to do too much changing....

Thanks!

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Re: So overwelmed..... :(

  • I'd say hell no to being your "good" sister's free daycare.  If she can't afford day care, then she needs to sell her damn camper.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    dump the limo and the favors.  seriously. 

    and book the honeymoon for later.  aruba won't burn down if you don't visit it.
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  • I'm sure your "bad" sister feels the same about you too.
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  • Say no to the daycare with your sister and don't expect your sister the MOH to be there for you.  If she's dropped out of helping you with preparation, cut out some unneccessary wedding related stuff.  Drop the favors.  Also, hate to mention it, but she doesn't really have to help you with wedding prep.  It would be nice if every MOH followed the suggested "duties" list I see around the internet, but she really just has to show up and support you on your wedding day.
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  • I agree that you shouldn't feel obligated to babysit your sister's kid; that's her problem to figure out.  I also agree with PPs that you can drop the limo and the favors. I've found that almost all my vendor meetings can be done over the phone and email. 

    At 2.5 months out I honestly don't feel like I have that much to do; or like I've spent THAT much time on the wedding :-/  ya pick a vendor, ya stuff some invites... it doesn't have to be a full time job.  Take a step back and think about what's REALLY important.  Also, while it sucks that your FI is going to be out of town so much, he can still help you with wedding stuff (take some invites on the road to stuff in his hotel at night, etc)

    Good luck with everything you have going on!
  • The only thing that i can suggest it make time for your needs, it is hard when family needs you but on the same note your husband and you are a family also. People should understand how much pressure you are under just planning the wedding... I feel like your sister can find a friend of hers to help watch her children, And talk to your friend about running the summer camp, try cutting down to part time on that aspect. Atleast for a few months to give you a good kick start on your wedding duties.
      If at all possible maybe ask a close friend of yours to help you out in this much needed time. I feel for you and all your work helping out your family, I wish you the best of luck for your upcoming wedding day, i also will pray for your sister to get the help she needs and also for her children, hopefully they learn how to cope better with the hands delt... Good luck bride to be Laughing
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