Am I the only one?

amocksun

Does anyone else feel like they're about to have a nervous breakdown, and that something will fall through the cracks?

RichSteph21210

Don't freak! these next 3 weeks you should just try to relax and let it happen and if something doesn't turn out perfect then its ok! it will still be the greatest day of your life!! good luck with everything!

amocksun

Aw, thank you. I'm just doing EVERYTHING myself and am sick, and am working 3 jobs. I just KNOW I'll forget something, or wind up with no spending money on the honeymoon.

RichSteph21210

OMGosh you don't have anyone who you can like delegate stuff too?? At the time we get married I will be a full time student and working full time and trying to finish up details but IDK how you are working 3 jobs and doing everything by yourself. I would definitely try to see if you have anyone you can lean on, your MOH? The spending money thing I don't know how to help you there lol we arent taking our honeymoon til a few months after so hopefully I will have time to do some last minute saving.

amocksun

Well, I should have clarified, I am not working that much lol. I'm working one steady but very physically demanding job, and then at 2 other places as needed to pay for my flowers and linens. I already worked at a florist sometimes so I'm working for her some in trade for flowers, and same thing with tableclothes. But it's still overwhelming...my aunts are being helpful but my mother has literally not done the smallest thing, I don't have a best friend and my bridesmaid is not even coming to the bachelorette party or staying for the reception. My fiance is really just working. I'm just overwhelmed and angry that I've been sick for a month.

RichSteph21210

Oh no that sounds so awful. Thankfully my mom is really helpful with getting stuff done (maybe b/c they weren't allowed to have a public wedding because she had my sister before getting married, kinda taboo back then i guess) but it sounds like you are in desperate need of some help! have you thought about asking your FI if he can help you with certain tasks or maybe telling your mom you really could use her help if it doesnt kill her to do so lol and maybe ask your aunts to take on a little more. Does your FI have any sisters or you FMIL that may also be able to help? just all suggestions to try to take some of the load off of you!  also you are probably still sick because you are so stressed out. Try taking a night to do nothing and have a glass of wine lol

amocksun

Aw, thanks for the support! My fiance is great, he and his mom actually are making my dress...though I'd like it to be a little closer to done. And a lot of it is just the usual dealing with men stuff, like by the time I explain something to him I could've done it myself. HIs sisters are no good. I guess I need to be more appreciative of the help I do have, it's mainly just hurtful that my mom and friends haven't helped at all and don't have any interest in it. It's times like these that I wish I had female companionship.

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No you aren't. I had a breakdown/crying spell last night bc of the stress. FI and I live out of state, no one here to help us. And my parents aren't doing a darn thing for the wedding. It is completely just the 2 of us and I was forced to quit my job bc they wouldn't give me time off for the HM which they knew before they hired me that we were getting married. I am scared to death we won't have everything done, not to mention the money, but I am just taking it one day at a time right now so I don't drive myself crazy.

amocksun

Aww, Missy I'm sorry! Thanks for sharing though, it's good to know I'm not alone. That's awful about your job. I'm actually not telling mine about the honeymoon until like the week before for that reason.

portia.young

Sorry you're stressing out.  I went through my older sister's wedding and personally witnessed her pre-wedding meltdown, so I vowed to have a wedding planner.  I found one that does day-of services for a reasonable price.  Plus, I live hundreds of miles away from family, so I knew I would need help.

Back to your situation, try to write everything down, like when you think of it, store it on your cell phone.  Lists work, because you can't think of everything on that day, but the moment you think of it a few days before, write it down, so you can check it off.

It works for Santa!

JennaV26

I'm not working the whole month of July before we get married because I will go insane. Good luck girl, it's almost here!!

tommyandy

Get some sleep and soup and gatorade type drinks and vitamins.  Can you work some of the flowers & linens trade off after the wedding instead of before it?