This issue is really stressing me out! I can't decide who to have walk me down the aisle. My parents divorced when I was 6 years old, and my mom remarried my step-dad when I was in 7th grade. My step-dad has been wonderful to me. He has been the one there for me throughout the years. He has been to every basketball game, dance competition, cheerleading event I've had. I know if I need something done around the house I can call him and he will come fix it. I know if my car breaks down, he will leave work and come fix it...you get my point. My father however has not always been there for me. I see him usually once or twice a year, christmas and thanksgiving. He doesn't call on my birthday, in fact I don't know if he remembers when it is, and he didn't pay child support when I was growing up. STILL, he is my flesh and blood father and he is not dead, so I felt like I should at least include him in walking me down the aisle, maybe halfway. My mom was furious when she heard this and said he does not deserve to be in any part of my wedding, and should only be invited as a guest. She said my step-dad would be very hurt if I allowed my dad to walk me down the aisle. I told her I felt I would really hurt my dad's feelings if I had my step-dad walk me down, and she doesn't seem to think it will. I then said I would rather have no one walk me down the aisle because I don't want to deal with it, and she was once again mad and said my step-father would be really upset.
The main thing is I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. My step-dad has three younger girls so he will get to do this 3 other times, where my father will not get to. I pointed this out to my mother and she said my step-dad has said multiple times that I mean more to him than his own dauthers...don't know if I believe that but whatever.
Am I being too sensitive towards my dad's feelings? Will it look bad to have someone who everyone in my family hates walk me down the aisle? Is my thinking logical??