Wedding date drama help me please!

Ana139

I have always wanted to get  married on our anniversary (Nov. 15th) but in 2012 it lands on a Thursday.... is it a terrible idea to have a Thursday wedding?? We live in a tourist area in Florida so I thought the guests could make a mini vacation out of it and it would save us SO MUCH money. There is a ton to do but my FI thinks it's weird and I am also worried about no one showing up. I also suggested Nov 15th 2013 (a Friday) but my FI doesn't want to wait that long. HELP!!

RaptorSLH

Saturday weddings are popular - and expensive - for a reason.  Talk to your must-have guests before you plan a weekday wedding, or a destination wedding.  Either of these things will reduce the number of people who can come.

Yuki Noodle

It's your wedding and I am riducously sentimental. Set your date and send out your STD's STAT!! Include a note in the STD why this date is important to you.

And, more importantly, make zero apologies. 

mandctaft

My sister had a Tuesday wedding and it turned out fine. Just do it in the evening so people have time to get out of work and get to the wedding.

DG1

Are your "must-attend" guests (parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.) from out of town?  If so, a Thursday wedding might put them in a tight spot, having to give up more vacation time and maybe more money in order to attend.

If all of your "musts" are local, it won't be as big of a deal, but don't expect people to party late into the night when they and their children have to go to work and/or school in the morning. 

In the end, it's up to you. If you make a conscious choice that you'd rather have it on 11/15, even if it means Grandma can't come, then you need to own it.  As for your FI, he gets a say in the decision (his "musts" are just as mandatory as yours).

If it works out that you don't decide to do it on 11/15/12, then the two of you need to decide together whether the date is more or less important than not wanting to wait a year.


That said - it can be beneficial to have a dating anniversary and a wedding anniversary. Dinner and a movie twice a year instead of once, and all that.

Queen Jane

Everything DG said. Also, just because you think people can make a vacation out of it does not mean that they will or that they will even want to. We had a DW in new Orleans and found that while we love the city not everyone else wants to use vacation days to go there for our wedding. We were ok with that, I would make sure you are as well. Personally, I would not attend a Thursday night wedding in Florida unless it were my sister or best friend.

nmmurraysanchez

How accepting are sunday weddings? I know Saturdays are first choice.

Viczaesar

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[QUOTE]It's your wedding and I am riducously sentimental. Set your date and send out your STD's STAT!! Include a note in the STD why this date is important to you.<strong> And, more importantly, make zero apologies. </strong>
Posted by Yuki Noodle[/QUOTE]
What?

RaptorSLH

[QUOTE]How accepting are sunday weddings? I know Saturdays are first choice.
Posted by nmmurraysanchez[/QUOTE]

<div>Again, talk to your must-have guests.  Partly I think this depends on the religion of the guests - some may feel Sundays are for worship, not for partying.  Partly this depends on the guest's job and location, and the nature/time of the event.</div><div>
</div><div>If you work banking hours and have to be up bright and early Monday morning, odds are good you're not going to want to party late Sunday night.  If you work in retail or essential services, when weekends are busy but everyone wants off, it may actually be easier than Saturday. </div><div>
</div><div>Again, if you are local to the wedding, it may not be a big deal to attend a ceremony Sunday evening and then drive home before work Monday.  If it's a four hour drive, suddenly that combo seems a lot less doable.</div>

LittleMissCutiePie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Wedding date drama help me please! : What?
Posted by Viczaesar[/QUOTE]
She shouldn't have to apologize for the date they choose for THEIR wedding. Sure they should be considerate, but if they are considerate enough to speak with people before hand, they don't need to apologize.

Ana139

Thanks for all of the advice I talked it over with my must have guests and my FI and we have decided on another date, a Saturday. We have just so many family members who are not only out of town but out of the country so  it would work out better.  I'm a little sad but I would rather have my family attend than get the date I want. Also, I guess two anniversaries isn't all bad. Thank you for the perspective!!!!