Sister/MOH.....Contemplating her position in wedding...Help!

supadivak

Ok so my sister and I have had a few choice back and forth words to each other. She has a very negative attitude towards everything and always has an opinion of what she dont like. She is the only one of my bridesmaids whom has so far given me the worst time and energy. I am really thinking about kicking her out of the wedding so I dont have the added stress and so she can just come as a guest. We already are not speaking at the moment and my wedding is in June. What's the difference now? I feel like people should be standing behind me whom I can get along with. Am I being fair? What would you do?

MinM

You should totally kick her out.

*Barbie*

what specifically has she done?

hmonkey

[QUOTE]Ok so my sister and I have had a few choice back and forth words to each other. She has a very negative attitude towards everything and <strong>always has an opinion of what she dont like</strong>. She is the only one of my bridesmaids whom has so far given me the worst time and energy. I am really thinking about kicking her out of the wedding so I dont have the added stress and so she can just come as a guest. We already are not speaking at the moment and my wedding is in June. What's the difference now? I feel like people should be standing behind me whom I can get along with. Am I being fair? What would you do?
Posted by supadivak[/QUOTE]

my sister is like this; there are many things about my wedding that she ... uh ... "don't like."  it helped me to see why some things would not work the way i envisioned them, and it also made me stand my ground on some other things.

she was my moh and my wedding planner.  she punched me in the back on my wedding day for being a whiny baby about my dress getting dirty, and she was totally right to do so.

i'm just saying -- is it really about the wedding, or have you just never gotten along?

supadivak

I think its both. We have never really gotten along. And I was trying to be the bigger person by letting her in the wedding. She has also said some degrading things to me about my wedding but I still sucked it up and didnt say anything. Finally I let her have it cause I couldnt take it anymore and now this is becoming a whole big "my sister" drama. I would just rather her not be in it so I can de-stress and not have the negativity on my day. I dont think there is a rule book to your siblings having to be in your wedding. I think it should be totally up to the bride.

hmonkey

there isn't a rule that your siblings have to be in your wedding.

my friend adam has 7 siblings, and only 2 were in his wedding party.

ReturnOfKuus

Lesson learned: don't make someone you don't like your MOH. 

baconsmom

People do know that using "whom" incorrectly just makes them look dumb, right? 

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE]I think its both. We have never really gotten along. <strong>And I was trying to be the bigger person by letting her in the wedding</strong>. She has also said some degrading things to me about my wedding but I still sucked it up and didnt say anything. Finally I let her have it cause I couldnt take it anymore and now this is becoming a whole big "my sister" drama. I would just rather her not be in it so I can de-stress and not have the negativity on my day. I dont think there is a rule book to your siblings having to be in your wedding. I think it should be totally up to the bride.
Posted by supadivak[/QUOTE]

she must have been *REALLY* honored that you allowed her the privilege of being in your WP .