HELP! cheap groomsmen

bkendall13

So our wedding is 10 months away and my fiance and I were talking about what we would do if 2 of his 5 groomsmen  (his brothers) decide not to pay for their tux rentals. They are both kind of cheap and don't seem interested in really participating as groomsmen. I'm posting this here because I need some unbiased feedback. If it was up to me I would tell them to figure it out and save $20 per month until they have enough or to not walk down the aisle. I definitely don't want to offer to pay for their tux rentals because everyone else is on board and completely willing to pay for their attendant attire. I think it would be completely unfair to give in and pay for them when everyone knew the responsibilites of being an attendant  up front and nobody else has had any qualms about paying for their attire. Can anyone think of an alterenative? It's up to my fiance but he has no idea what to do. Help! 

ohwhynot85

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[QUOTE]So our wedding is 10 months away and my fiance and I were talking about what we would do if 2 of his 5 groomsmen  (his brothers) decide not to pay for their tux rentals. They are both kind of cheap and don't seem interested in really participating as groomsmen. I'm posting this here because I need some unbiased feedback. If it was up to me I would tell them to figure it out and save $20 per month until they have enough or to not walk down the aisle. I definitely don't want to offer to pay for their tux rentals because everyone else is on board and completely willing to pay for their attendant attire. I think it would be completely unfair to give in and pay for them when everyone knew the responsibilites of being an attendant  up front and <strong><u>nobody else has not had any qualms about paying for their attire.</u></strong> Can anyone think of an alterenative? It's up to my fiance but he has no idea what to do. Help! 
Posted by bkendall13[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>No two situations are alike. Not mention you're dealing with MEN! They are not  going to be eager to jump up and say "listen these suits are too expensive, can you find something cheaper". You don't know their financial situations. You should just leave them alone and let them figure it out. They are grown men. </div><div>
</div><div>Whatever you do - DO NOT BOOT them from the wedding party. That is just being ridiculous. 

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kmmssg

Make sure they know the cost of the suits/tuxes and make sure you ASK EVERYONE PRIVATELY for their budgets before you choose something.  If they don't get the required attire they take themselves out of the wedding and you will have 3 GMs instead of 5 which is absolutely fine.

*Barbie*

10mo x $20/mo = $200 for a tux rental is a bit insane. 

i think YOU are just looking for an excuse to kick fBILs out of the wedding party. 

if your H wants his brothers to sit out because they decide not to get tuxes in 10 months, then it's his decision. you need to butt out and stop bringing this up. 

with the wedding 10 months away, i don't get how this is even a concern. 

AuntFlo

^^^^What Barbie said.^^^^

bkendall13

The tuxes actually cost $150 so 10 months at $20 per month is more than they need. My fiancé and I have been engaged for 8 months already and the groomsmen have been aware of the price for the tuxes for 4 months. The reason I am concerned about them getting tuxes is they have shown up to other family member's weddings in jeans, old t shirts, and ratty shoes. With as much money as my fiancé and I are spending I really want to have nice pictures. We asked everyone instead of a gift to just worry about their wedding attire and that is why I am trying to figure this out so early. I simply would like some advice on how to address this concern because my fiancé is worried and doesn't know how to approach the issue with his brothers.

erinlin25

Assuming they are adults, its their issue to get the tux in time. If not they simply will be guests and not GM.  Your FI needs to talk to them, and people are right, they don't even need to worry  about this for many, many months.  Your FI says, hey just remember the GM are wearing Tux's so the rental is this much--are you OK with that?  They can say yes or no.  You should just stay out of it.

bkendall13

So my fiance spoke with all the groomsmen this weekend to remind them of the details for the tux and the deadline for havng it ordered. The two groomsmen in question were on board with making an appointment at the tux rental shop in a few months. Hopefully our concerns were unwarranted and everything works out. For now Thank you all for your advice. I appreciate it.