Sexless marriage

TheMrsC23

Dear Prudence,
I have been married for 16 years and can count on one hand the number of times my husband and I have had sex. For the first five months of our relationship sex was frequent and passionate. Then I got the engagement ring and the excuses started. I married him because he was the love of my life and hoped things would get better after the stress of planning a wedding was behind us. I was also in my mid-30s and wanted children. The honeymoon was a huge disappointment. Our two children were conceived through IVF. We have been in counseling, but at this point, I’m not attracted to him anymore. He is kind, smart, funny, and a great provider. He is a fabulous father and he and our young teenage twins would be devastated if we divorced. In five years, the twins will be in college. Do I leave him after the kids go and try to find someone else? Or stay and live in a comfortable but platonic marriage?

—Too Good to Go, Too Bad to Stay

GBCK

why would you have a kid through IVF if you have a relationship so broken?

Nevermind, I know the answer to that is "people are dumb"

But how the hell do youjustify the cost and invasiveness of IVF for no good reason?

*Barbie*

This brings to mind NOLA's article from yesterday - she wanted kids, so she settled. 

baconsmom

I'm with Dan Savage: Cheat. Or ask the husband to open up the marriage. But she says she loves him and is fond of him, just that there's no sex. 

Knottie_22389081

I'm sure a bunch of y'all are in this type of marriage ;P

VarunaTT

^This is just getting annoying now.

*Barbie*

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_sexless-marriage-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:41cd827c-a7af-49ec-b162-2c0f82da9024Post:c8367469-4768-4c9b-a6b3-2171f09a406a">Re:Sexless marriage</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm sure a bunch of y'all are in this type of marriage ;P
Posted by flanyta2grl[/QUOTE]

<div>that's doubtful given the level of pantslessness around these parts. </div>

TheMrsC23

Another one?  Christ on a cracker.  I can't keep up with all of these different personalities. 

FlaNYtattoogirl

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_sexless-marriage-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:41cd827c-a7af-49ec-b162-2c0f82da9024Post:c8367469-4768-4c9b-a6b3-2171f09a406a">Re:Sexless marriage</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm sure a bunch of y'all are in this type of marriage ;P
Posted by flanyta2grl[/QUOTE]

THIS ISN'T ME!!!!

tawillers

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_sexless-marriage-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:41cd827c-a7af-49ec-b162-2c0f82da9024Post:1120dc73-48ea-4565-b0cf-ba9335123748">Re:Sexless marriage</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Sexless marriage : THIS ISN'T ME!!!!
Posted by FlaNYtattoogirl[/QUOTE]

And it isn't 8-8-12 flany either, right?  ::yawn::

**O-Face**

Hey all you flany's out there, I have plenty of teh sechs.

kerbohl

This better not be me!  I'm doing the whole waiting until marriage thing, and when I get married there had better be plenty of sex to make up for it!
I wonder if this guy has medical issues or something that makes him have a low libido.  But it seems weird that they had frequence sex when they started seeing each other in that case.