July 2012 Weddings

QOTD - Tuesday

When did you know your fiance was "the one"?

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  • It was pretty early on.  I said, "I love you," on the 2nd date and I tend to fall quickly so I would say that I knew within the first month of dating.
  • We dated for 3 years when we were younger 19-22.  When I broke up with him I told my friends that I knew FI would be a good husband/father one day but I was not ready for that so we broke up.  Then got back together 5 years later at this point in my life I knew that if we got back together we would end up getting married this time around I was ready.  At 22 I just felt like I needed to be young and travel and to date around.  I wasn't ready to spend the rest of my life with the first serious boyfriend I have ever had. 

    I guess when we moved in together which was 6 months after we got back together I knew that we would get married.  I can honestly look back on life and say that I have no regrets which is a great feeling.
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  • This is a tough question, I really don't know if I can pinpoint it. I think the closest I could get is after FI and I got back together after our week long break. We broke up three years ago this summer and when we got back together everything sort of fell into place. We stopped fighting all the time and were just happy together. That was our last semester of college and I think that was when I realized that we could actually get married and be happy like that forever.
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  • I knew he was "The One" pretty early on. But it definitely wasn't the first or second date or anything. Probably about 3 months in is when I realized how compatible we are and how different he is.  

    See, I had dated a series of pretty awful guys and compared to them especially, fiance was just totally, absolutely amazing. My law school boyfriend was the WORST - terrible influence, detrimental to my body image, and treated me like trash. I actually broke up with law school boyfriend (for the 5th time) about 3 days before the vacation during which I met fiance.

    I have to say, though, I was skeptical of falling for a guy I met in Cabo San Lucas on Spring Break. But he's the best guy around and treats me like gold and is perfect for me. 
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  • Well actually, the first time we spoke... sort of.

    See we'd met on an online dating site. We emailed and then became facebook friends, and then within a week decided to talk on the phone. And when we did, he got on and told me his whole life story. Afterwards, he was feeling pretty vulnerable and apologized and I told him, "No! You don't understand." And I proceeded to tell him my life story.

    And then we were both struck with awe and knew God totally had a hand in this because our life stories were paralell.

    It was a few months before I actually 100% fell in love with him... but that was when I knew he was the one.
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  • Well... We've been friends for a long time, and actually before we started dating I realised that I'd better be serious about him, or I'd lose my best friend. The only reason I took the leap in the first place is because I could see us getting married... That was before we kissed :)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_qotd-tuesday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:579ad340-4afb-45c4-96b3-cf3e9653222cPost:03fa2442-1668-40fc-a796-89dbffd1959c">QOTD - Tuesday</a>:
    [QUOTE]When did you know your fiance was "the one"?
    Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

    It took ten years for me to give him a shot. We both dated other people - just remain good online friends. I always considered him my best friend - but he just seemed too nice to be good BF material..so I continously ignored his signals. We laugh about it  now - how he would send me burned CDs of all these songs pretty much saying he loved me - and I ignored the messages in the songs. :p

    As soon as we actually met in person, and he gave me a tour in his car of a night-time snow covered Omaha. I knew. He was such a sweetheart.  It took us meeting one time - for 3 days - for me to turn my life around and finally give in to his tries at my heart. :p
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  • I've never gotten the "OMGZ he's the one" feeling with my FI. 

    I'm as un-romantic and un-lovey dovey of a female as they come, and he's the same way, so I guess in our own weird way we know we're meant to be together!  He is my first (and last) long-term boyfriend and I honestly can't picture life without him at this point.

    But I still see him high-fiving me at the altar after the priest says "you may kiss the bride."

    jk..... hopefully... :)
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  • When I was going through a rough patach (They found a spot on my brain and had to operate on it) he was there through everything and never left my side.

    Also, Even before that we always managed to find our way back to each other (we broke up once for 2 years).
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  • We met early October, and he was my boyfriend a week later. We said "I love you" within 2 months but both admitted later we felt it sooner than that. When I went home for a month over Christmas break (I was in university at the time and got a really long break) it was awful to be apart and I knew then that I wanted to be with him forever. It's funny, because my roommate at the time predicted we would get married when we had been dating for less than a month.

    Let me just add - I am (or was) NOT a romantic, gushy, fall head over heals type of person. I've had one other serious boyfriend, and we dated for about a year, and probably only said we loved each other a handful of times and usually only after our HUGE fights or when we were drinking (it was an unhealthy relationship). Never called each other pet names, etc. I had commitment issues before FI, and hated the word "boyfriend". I actually had not gotten past the first couple dates with a guy for about 3 years before him. I think I just never felt safe enough to express my feelings, which I have never felt with FI even in the beginning.
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  • After about 2 months of dating, we had a freak snowstorm and got a day off classes. My FI and I spent the whole day together playing in the snow and even broke into a sculpture garden on our school's campus that was closed off. We had to sneak in between the bars of the gate (I guess we were a lot skinnier back then, cause we just did our e-pics there in December and definitely couldn't fit through them now!). When we were in the garden, it started snowing more and we kissed and I remember thinking... oh boy, this just got serious. Three days later the "I love you's" came out, but I always remember that as the moment I knew I was in love with him. We talk about it now as our "snow globe" moment, lol.

    As for knowing he was the one I would marry... I think that just came more gradually with time. We were only 18 when we met, so I was nowhere close to thinking about those things.
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  • Hmmm I'm not sure! Probably a couple of months after dating. Well, I probably knew I wanted to marry him, but I think it was after we actually lived together after dating for 2 years when I actually knew. I was so worried that we'd not be able to live together- I cannot stand living with certain people so I was glad to discover that this was not the case with him!

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  • My FI knew quicker than I did.  We met online and had been talking for about 6 weeks when we met physically for the first time.  His mother was in Hospice care at the time and so the next several weeks when I would go to his town to visit, we would go and see her.  At one such visit, he declared that he had met his "match" to his mom.  I was a little taken back and told him so at dinner that evening.  He looked me right in the eye and said, I know, that on a scale of one to ten with love I am at 10 about you and you are at about a 3, but you will catch up.  He was so right, within another month, after we had gone on a vacation together, I knew, he was exactly what I was looking for.

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_qotd-tuesday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:579ad340-4afb-45c4-96b3-cf3e9653222cPost:28857f2d-0266-4d39-bc4f-f5ac1006b919">Re: QOTD - Tuesday</a>:
    [QUOTE]My FI knew quicker than I did.  We met online and had been talking for about 6 weeks when we met physically for the first time.  His mother was in Hospice care at the time and so the next several weeks when I would go to his town to visit, we would go and see her.  At one such visit, he declared that he had met his "match" to his mom.  I was a little taken back and told him so at dinner that evening.  He looked me right in the eye and said, I know, that on a scale of one to ten with love I am at 10 about you and you are at about a 3, but you will catch up.  He was so right, within another month, after we had gone on a vacation together, I knew, he was exactly what I was looking for.
    Posted by ski2play[/QUOTE]

    Aw. I totally think you win this thread. That was too sweet.
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  • K888 hahaha that's hilarious! I'd love to witness that B&G high five at the altar haha!

    Well I feel relieved to know I'm not the only person who can't pinpoint the "he's the one" feeling. I guess I'd say it was as we continued to call each other over skype every day and talk for hourrrrs with no effort whatsoever. It was just so easy talking to him. Maybe it was the moment I decided I would be moving here after college. At first my plan (before FI) was to return next summer for another vacation. Then I thought it would be too sad to say goodbye to everyone again and thought what if I study there or work for a few months. Once things got a little more serious with FI I made the decision to move. I guess that came along with an understanding that we'd be starting our lives together.

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_qotd-tuesday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:579ad340-4afb-45c4-96b3-cf3e9653222cPost:499dd86c-524d-4e82-8c96-5fa0ed7cd600">Re: QOTD - Tuesday</a>:
    [QUOTE]After about 2 months of dating, we had a freak snowstorm and got a day off classes. My FI and I spent the whole day together playing in the snow and even broke into a sculpture garden on our school's campus that was closed off. We had to sneak in between the bars of the gate (I guess we were a lot skinnier back then, cause we just did our e-pics there in December and definitely couldn't fit through them now!). When we were in the garden, it started snowing more and we kissed and I remember thinking... oh boy, this just got serious. Three days later the "I love you's" came out, but I always remember that as the moment I knew I was in love with him. We talk about it now as our "snow globe" moment, lol. As for knowing he was the one I would marry... I think that just came more gradually with time. We were only 18 when we met, so I was nowhere close to thinking about those things.
    Posted by BmoreBride311[/QUOTE]

    omg, shut up. That is so adorable! :)
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  • Ok this is going to sound super cheesy but I swear its true.

    We were in high school and he asked me out. I said yes and we went to a dance. It was kind of a group things. Then they played a slow number and we danced together. He was holding and it felt so . . . right. I looked into his eyes and thats when I knew! Of course being 16 I couldn't say that but still I knew. We said "I Love You" just a few month in. He was originally going to propose after a year and a half but realized we were just too young. We are fianlly at the right place in our lives to do this and I can't wait!

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