Too Fat for Engagement Photos

CDumovich

After several months of planning engagement photos, the week before I call my mother to let her know when/where exactly we are taking them. She then enlightens me that she does not think I need them, since my fiance and I had pictures done nine months ago for Christmas. We were not engaged then, and many of the pictures included his daughter, and we are wanting several of us as an engaged couple. She then tells me that nothing "has changed since then." In other words, I have not dropped the insane amount of pounds she had planned for me to do before I said "I do." I am hurt and wanting opinions, is it possible to be too fat to have engagement photos taken?

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]After several months of planning engagement photos, the week before I call my mother to let her know when/where exactly we are taking them. She then enlightens me that she does not think I need them, since my fiance and I had pictures done nine months ago for Christmas. We were not engaged then, and many of the pictures included his daughter, and we are wanting several of us as an engaged couple. She then tells me that nothing "has changed since then." In other words, I have not dropped the insane amount of pounds she had planned for me to do before I said "I do." I am hurt and wanting opinions, is it possible to be too fat to have engagement photos taken?
Posted by CDumovich[/QUOTE]


I'm just going to say it. Your mother is a terrible person for suggesting you need to lose weight to get married.

You need to stand up to her. No mother should ever put it in her daughter's head that she's not good enough because of some superfluous thing like the number on a scale. Clearly your fiance saw fit enough to marry you at whatever size you have been while together, and your mother is totally wrong and should be ashamed of herself for suggesting anything of the sort. YOU are beautiful just as you are. Get married, feel beautiful, and tell Mom she's wrong.

VarunaTT

Your mother needs to shut her damn mouth.

Your FI loves you NOW, not some secretly hidden thin you, that's all that matters.  Ignore her.

6fsn

Agreed with BC and Varuna.  Your mom was completely out of line.  If you are happy and want to take pictures to celebrate this time in your life do so.  Your mom needs to zip it and it's okay for you to tell her that.

Lauriac

If there is a weight limit to get married . . . I'm in trouble.

Forget what your mother says. She's going to be worse when you pick out your dress. Trust me, I know.

baconsmom

What a bitch. Don't you dare take her dress shopping - she'll just keep pulling this sht, and you'll feel terrible, and it's not worth it. Trust me: I'm a fat woman whose mother has pulled this since I was 5. I made my gown in part because it neatly avoided shopping with my mom, who will shut up, but only after she's told to. 

Happiness knows no pounds. You'll look fabulous in your photos because you're happy and in love, not because you're a supermodel. Tell your mother to shove it up her ass.

For inspiration, check out Adipositivity.com (NSFW) and Fatshionista.com. 

Congratulations on your engagement!

CDumovich

Thank you for your support in getting my pictures taken. I guess the disappoint is in part I have always thought it was my health that they were worried about, and that I understood, but now it is the suggestion that I am not properly "sized" for picture taking that hurts the most.

*Barbie*

unless the photog needs to take panoramic shots to get you and your FI in the pictures, I'd say that no, you're not too fat to get engagement photos taken. 

elizabethm4

I'm sorry your mom made you feel this way! Go get your pictures done, they will be beautiful

Theresa626

holy crap your mother's a bitch.  You will be beautiful just the way you are.  You're not supposed to look like a different person, you're supposed to look like you all happy to be newly engaged.  Your happy eyes and face will show your beauty and make the pictures superb.  You'll look back on them as a fond memory of a special time in your life and don't let your mother's negativity invade that special memory.  

Theresa626

oh also, don't take your mom dress shopping with you.  Go by yourself or with friends and don't let her even see you in the dress till your wedding day.  

eworden-elamer

 Dont let her bring you down. Your in a very happy place and you should enjoy every min of it. Take your photos with confidence and be the beautiful woman that your fiance fell in love with. Own it girl. This is your time to shine !!!