wdyt?

hmonkey

sorry, i've been cheating a lot lately.

x is driving her car; y is the passenger.  as y gets out of the car, the door handle breaks.  now, if there is a passenger in the car, x has to open the door from the outside.

there are two schools here --
1) x is owed an apology.  y broke the door, or was at least present when the door handle broke.
2) y has nothing to apologize for.  it is entirely possible that the door handle has reached the end of its service life, and y was merely present when it happened.

a third is saying that x owes y an apology, because now every time they go somewhere, y has to be "let out" by x.

wdyt?

TheDuckis

2, unless y seriously jacked the handle in her attempt to exit the car.

The thought that x would owe y an apology in this situation is laughable.

loveshine1

I would apologize whether it was my fault that the door handle broke or not.

zsazsa-stl

I would apologize, but unless Y was in a fit of roid rage, it probably wasn't Y's fault.

hmonkey

the reasoning that x should apologize to y is this:

imagine if y was at x's house.  y is sitting in a chair, in the normal fashion.  the chair breaks.  x would apologize for the chair breaking and sending y to the floor.

i think that both of them should be apologizing to each other -- sorry my car broke and trapped you inside; sorry i broke your car by whatever i was doing or not doing. 

*Barbie*

i would think it was somewhere between 1 and 2 - Y may have pulled too hard or the handle was just old/faulty. 

Either way, can't X just get the car repaired?

hmonkey

barbie, I KNOW.  but if there's all this blah blah blah about the apology -- it's not about the car.

MinM

For the health of the relationship - they should both say sorry.

*Barbie*

people are morons - is x or y so fragile that they NEED an apology?

this seems like a serious safety issue - what if there's an accident and someone needs to get out fast? I don't think a car would pass inspection like that.

TheDuckis

If I broke a chair by sitting on it I would not expect an apology from the owner of the chair. I would be apologizing profusely and waddling my fat ass straight to weight watchers.

However, I am a pathological appologizer. I've been told that I apologize for way too much (someone: It's raining outside; me: I'm sorry). So regardless of whether I was x or y in this situation, I'd probably be the one saying I was sorry.

hmonkey

:: sits next to barbie, laugh/cries on her shoulder ::

6fsn

I'd apologize if I were y.  If I were x I wouldn't apologize and I wouldn't expect y to either. 

What kind of car was this?