Wedding Date Problem

byrojaso

Ok, my fiance and I currently have the date set for August 6th.  This is the 4th date we have picked as family/friends have had a problem with the last ones (June 14, 11, July 9, 30).  Another conflict has come up which could push the date back even further. Neither of us want to push it back again as we will be starting back in school August 22nd and want to be married before then so we don't have to try and move in together after it starts, and we really just want to get married!  I had an idea to split up the ceremony and reception/open house dates to a month or two apart. This way there are two dates wich should accomadate more people and give them the option of wedding or reception. We also wouldn't have to pay for everything at once. Is this an ok thing to do? Should we keep it set at the 6th or try and find another date to work? Please help!!

ekelly83

This is yours and your FI's decision. If some people cannot make it to the day you pick, so be it. It isn't a major holiday, it isn't on a week day. This is your wedding date. You will have guest that decline your invitation regardless of the day you choose. If that day works for you, keep it.

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]Ok, my fiance and I currently have the date set for August 6th.  This is the 4th date we have picked as family/friends have had a problem with the last ones (June 14, 11, July 9, 30).  Another conflict has come up which could push the date back even further. Neither of us want to push it back again as we will be starting back in school August 22nd and want to be married before then so we don't have to try and move in together after it starts, and we really just want to get married!  I had an idea to split up the ceremony and reception/open house dates to a month or two apart. This way there are two dates wich should accomadate more people and give them the option of wedding or reception. We also wouldn't have to pay for everything at once. Is this an ok thing to do? Should we keep it set at the 6th or try and find another date to work? Please help!!
Posted by byrojaso[/QUOTE]

byrojaso

I'm aware of which fiance/fiancee spelling is for which gender. I am a girl. He set this up when we first got engaged which is why his email (byrojaso) is what we go by when we post things. He wasn't my first love, not even my prom date. I didn't know him in high school. This didn't help with my question at all either.

artbyallie

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[QUOTE]I'm aware of which fiance/fiancee spelling is for which gender. I am a girl. He set this up when we first got engaged which is why his email (byrojaso) is what we go by when we post things. He wasn't my first love, not even my prom date. I didn't know him in high school. This didn't help with my question at all either.
Posted by byrojaso[/QUOTE]

<div>That was just her sig, not directed at you personally. And don't try to split up the wedding and reception to two dates. Pick one that works with the most important people you want there and go with it.</div>

mm4662

You can't make every single person happy with your date. Pick one that works for you two and stick with it.

klm03013

No matter what you change your date to, there is bound to be someone who can't make it. I wouldn't want to do a ceremony and reception far apart- just stick to the date.

kmmssg

What kind of problem was everyone having with your other dates?  It's kinda crazy to have to change that many times.  Did you make sure the people you absolutely have to have attend were available before you chose the date? 

nannewmur

I would not split the dates.  IMHO, to make it convenient for someone who can't make the wedding, you are making it inconvenient to those who are going to attend both.  Plus, you are on that just married high and will want to celebrate with family and friends who made your day special.  I would think two date would make it inconvenient on family and friends.

CassieeK

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[QUOTE]No matter what you change your date to, there is bound to be someone who can't make it. I wouldn't want to do a ceremony and reception far apart- just stick to the date.
Posted by klm03013[/QUOTE]

<div>This.</div>

Melissa603

Pick your date and then send out your invitations. Those that have a conflict with the date will send a no for an RSVP or rearrange their schedule.