Bad News :(

Reilly2Be

My FI and I have gotten some really bad news this week. First his uncle who he was extremely close to passed away unexpectedly. Second his father has diabetes and his kidneys are not doing too well. He had a shunt put in his arm for dialysis and it's not mature enough to use. His kidneys are failing and has to be put on dialysis asap and he needs to find a donor. His health keeps failing and with him living 3 hours from us it's so hard for us to always be there. My FI and I are sitting down with his family after the funeral this weekend to figure out if we need to move up our wedding. We can't get married without his father. Our other option is to have a private immediate family only ceremony in the next few months and then have our big wedding like we planned so that way we don't lose out on all of our deposits. I'm so confused and I just want all the bad things to stop happening. Thank you for reading this...I just needed to get this off of my chest.

Tygirljojo

I'm so sorry about your FI's family situations.  Those are some difficult times.  Based on what you laid out, if you have concern over keeping your deposits, I think the option of having a private, immediate family only ceremony in the next couple months would be good since it sounds like you both are concerned about his father's health situation.  I'm sure your friends and other family will understand.  One more option would be to talk to your vendors about the situation and see if they can help you move things up to a different date soon or are willing to let you out of your contract with them.  *hugs*

jennuinne

So sorry to hear this.  FI mom passed away unexpectedly about a month ago and its going to be really hard having a wedding without her there.  So, I would say if you can move it up or have a small simple ceremony w/ family, DO IT!  Look into moving it up and see if that will work.  Do you have other OOT guests that wouldn't be able to come if you moved it up?  If its too hard, then do a small ceremony now and keep the bigger wedding/reception later. 

Sorry you're going through this.  It sucks.

Kahalagurl

Yeah, i agree with PP, that if you can do a small ceremony in the near future that may be something to consider.  Esp since his father's health is better today than it will be tomorrow.  It may also be super stressful to move the whole wedding up.  Its a tough situation either way. *hugs*

BrandyL10

I would go with the small family ceremony. That way he is there for sure and you will have that memory. The reason I say keep your original date and your big wedding afterwards is because I think if a lot of OOT guests can't make it to your new wedding date if you changed, you might regret it a little bit.
So I love the idea of an intimate wedding. I'm so sorry you're going through this, I hope things get better and you're in my thoughts!