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zoopsiedaisy

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TheDuckis

A month before the wedding you will certainly be able to spare one afternoon to enjoy time with your family and friends. Look at it as a short respite from all the last minute stress.

erollis

maybe you can compromise and have it between January and March. If she really wants to have it only a month from the wedding it is fine. Don't stress. You aren't planning it. All you have to do is show up and be happy.

sister2groom

If she's hosting it, she can set the date and time. And why should she be expected to make new plans for your party that would require her to cancel plans she already has? Not that the reason she wants to plan the party the date you picked is your concer, but it's not even like it's a haircut appointment, out-of town trips are not easy to reschedule.

DG1

She's throwing you a shower.  All you get/have to do is show up, smile, and say "thank you." 

If people want to travel from TX, they will, whether it's a month or two months before the wedding.  If they can't/won't, they won't. 

There's really not much to do a month before the wedding.  That's really sortof downtime. Things are either already done (invitations mailed, venue chosen, flowers chosen and paid for, etc.) or can't be done yet (final catering count, etc.)  It's really an ideal time - use that week to write thank-you notes for the shower and wait for things to gear up again about 2 weeks before the wedding.