My mom sent a text saying she was "...sorry [she] questioned you about the doctor appt. It is hard letting go of control. When are you going to be here?"
I'm glad I had the presence of mind to realize it was about the control and not me.
I sent a message back saying I should have asked and I'm sorry, too and the dates of my visit. I also said we would discuss what she wants/needs from me before I arrive so I don't oberstep my bounds again. I told her I love her and don't want to cause her undue stress.
She said I love you, too. I'm counting on you like I always do.
So, everyone is friends again. Thankfucking goodness because I probably would have cracked if we hadn't made the nice nice. I think she is coming out of being in shock about it. I'll stop posting about this until I have something to actually report. It has just been nice to vent into the interwebs. Thanks, guys.