Unfriendlies need not apply, LOL.
My wedding is in a month and is completely paid for. My mom paid for our reception, and my fiance and I are paying for everything else like honeymoon, transportation, and if there is a balance at the end of the night. This was her (very generous) gift to us, and she seemed happy to give this money to us for our wedding. She gave this to us a couple of months ago and we used it to pay off the reception. We never asked for it, she just came out and said she had the extra money and wanted us to have a nice wedding. It totally changed our budget and we went with a place that was better than we were planning on after she gave us the gift. But now I think she regrets giving us this money because she has been asking to borrow money from me at least once a week even though she knows we are working on a budget with the upcoming wedding. She brings up the fact that she gave us this money and if she never gave us this money she would have it in the bank to use - but we never asked for it. I would gladly give it back to her if we had it on hand. I told her that I could start paying her back AFTER the wedding and we come back from our honeymoon, but she said it won't help get her bills paid now. I really regret even accepting this gift because I feel guilty like I took money away from her that she could have used herself. I don't know what to do because we'll lose money by cancelling, but I don't know how I can enjoy the day without feeling the guilt of not being able to give this money back to my mom right away. I am not sure what to do. My fiance thinks it is mean that she would give us a gift and expect it back, but she said she needs the money. Any advice might be helpful.