entertain dh?

hmonkey

i don't understand.  we have tv, books, a radio and separate dvrs.  dh can entertain himself.

sometimes dh feels the need to entertain me, as in, tries to start a conversation when i am clearly watching some very, very important television.  these reality shows don't magically disappear from the dvr without my gentle, loving hand.

PMeg819

God gave men hands for a reason. That's 15 minutes of entertainment right there.

Combine that with mouse clicking, Wii remote holding, and the ability to open a beer...I'm only here to look good, cook something healthier and actually palatable than what he would, and birth his son. He doesn't need entertaining.

AuntFlo

Ugh.  For whatever reason, Dh thinks its my responsibility to make sure his weekends are action packed.   Seriously.   It's something we struggle with and yes, we're in counseling.

hmonkey

mr flo needs to watch more michael bay movies, not live them.  or, you could just blow stuff up randomly to make things more exciting for him.

MinM

I HATE HATE HATE it when H talks when I am watching TV. After I pause the TV and give him the disgust face, he usually gets the point. I mean, people are confessing to getting happy endings and he is talking some nonesense. I can't miss a minute of this.

AuntFlo

mr flo needs to do a lot of things.

This issue has mainly been since I've been out of a job.  I'm hoping that things will go back to "normal" when I start working in the next few weeks.  
Meaning that I'll have an excuse to sit around and watch tv all weekend because I'm tired from working. 

nicoleg1982

NicoLeg = MinM

*Barbie*

AF, probably not therapy approved, but try what I did - 

"DH, you need to plan at least 2 'date nights' a month or i will cut you.... i know where you sleep..." 

i get tired of planning stuff all of the time, too. He has to plan some sort of "date" at least 2 week nights a month (generally just consists of going out to dinner and possibly another activity like bowling/mini golf/shopping - but it's predetermined "wednesday will be date night this week and we will get mexican food and play mini golf") and has to plan at least 2 weekend activities per month  - "we'll go to the movies and get lunch at XXXX")

All planning needs to be done in advance of the actual date by DH - so he needs to look up movie times or locations/directions or find a new restaurant, etc. We switch off weeks, so it's pretty balanced now.

This is one of the things that we worked on during our rough patch last year and it really helped. He was always like, "you're so good at planning things/coming up with stuff to do/etc." and i said that he needed to determine how often he thought he could plan a date and then do it - we thought this was a good compromise. 

loveshine1

DH's weekend behavior is totally different from my own. I feel that I'm stuck at work all week and I like to do fun things on the weekends.

He would be perfectly content laying on the couch and watching something lame he DVRed during the week, with the occasional round of golf.

We usually go out to dinner on the weekends, but if I'm stuck at home during the day on the weekends, I get a little stircrazy.

hmonkey

dh and i do not call it "date night" but we do things that are interesting to us.  our motivation: we know we will not live in this city forever, and we don't want to leave wishing that we had -- just once -- done X.

sometimes it means we are a tourist in our own city, but it does make it easier when we have visitors, or when we want to do something again.