Just out of curiousity

Mioh1

Are you girls planning the wedding by yourself? I got engaged around the time my cousin and one of my friends. People say that no one will care about the wedding as much as you do. But I see my cousin getting help and I don't mean financially. Just discussing over wedding plans. I don't know it just feels weird that I only talk wedding related subjects with people on the net (other than FI) instead of family though I'm sure I'm not alone

awick14

I am getting alot of help from family members. I have a very crafty family, so we aree DIY'ing lots. My grandma has what we call a "craft day" at her house every monday 1-3 for a few of her friends to make cards and other stuff.  Her group of friends has offered to do the invitations and other paper products. I'm so happy with this. As having those 4 hands help me and my FI will be nice.

I also have a lot of help from my wedding party (4 girls) and they haven't helped with anything yet. (moving into the town we will be married in 2 weeks, so putting stuff off till then) But they have done there own research for dresses already and everything. And my MOH is on here getting tons of ideas she's emailing me.

Hope you do end up getting some help. It will make the proccess go a little smoother.

DG1

I had almost no help. My family isn't closeby, and I don't have a lot of friends here.  My mom visited to go dress shopping, and DH came with me to some vendor meetings and planned a few things by himself completely. MIL made my (very simple) veil.  I asked one friend to be in charge of the kids' play table, and her husband was kind enough to walk around with a video camera.

A friend, on the other hand, had her aunt do all of her photography, had about 15 family friends make cakes for her "cake table," had another friend basically bartend the whole thing, another friend DJ the ipod reception. Her reception was in teh backyard of her parents' house, and they had about 10 families bring over outdoor furniture so there would be enough places for people to sit. Her family had an invitation-making party for all of her invites.  I think she paid for her dress, flowers, food, and booze - that's it. 

So yes, there are wildly disproportionate amounts of help out there for people.  It's kindof a bummer not to get any help, but on the other hand, you get to pick all of your own stuff, and not just say "well, Aunt Gertrude is kind enough to make a cake, I can't really ask her NOT to make the strawberry one she wants to."

Best to expect no help and be pleasantly surprised if any comes along.

lharri12

FI and I are mostly planning it ourselves, but my mom and FMIL have both been included in things, and I also talk about it with my sister and my BFF (both from a distance).  It's true that no one else cares about it as much as the bride and groom, so I try to keep wedding talk to a minimum, but I also know that they want to be in the loop, so I touch base with them on the bigger stuff.
Do you try to talk to family members about it, but they don't seem to care, or are you shying away from it because you don't want to smother them?  You come off as a little timid, so if you want your family to be involved, ask them whether they'd like to be involved and how much.