Future Sister In Law Question

Sonnkm

I've had several issues and drama's dealing with my future sister in law (her telling us that she hates, me, I'm a horrible person, our wedding is a mistake, yadda yadda, you get the picture). I eventually decided to let it go for the good of the family and for us to just be civil around each other - but she announced yesterday that she plans on having her cousin and her wear matching outfits at the wedding because they think it would be "cute".  To me, this is her trying to get attention, and personally I would be embarrassed if I was wearing the same thing as someone else at an event.  I can't say anything because I feel it would be detrimental to our somewhat healed relationship.  What can I do?  Let it go? Find a way to tell her? Close my eyes really hard and hope it goes away??

thatgrrrrl

Who cares what she wears? You're the only one who will, if you even notice her at all that day. Let her wear what she wants. She's the one who will look like the moron.

DG1

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[QUOTE]I've had several issues and drama's dealing with my future sister in law (her telling us that she hates, me, I'm a horrible person, our wedding is a mistake, yadda yadda, you get the picture). I eventually decided to let it go for the good of the family and for us to just be civil around each other - but she announced yesterday that she plans on having her cousin and her wear matching outfits at the wedding because they think it would be "cute".  To me, this is her trying to get attention, and personally I would be embarrassed if I was wearing the same thing as someone else at an event.  I can't say anything because I feel it would be detrimental to our somewhat healed relationship.  What can I do?  Let it go? Find a way to tell her? Close my eyes really hard and hope it goes away??
Posted by Sonnkm[/QUOTE]

I vote for option Q: Let her look like an idiot at your wedding.  Tell your photographer to try to leave the "cuties" out of the majority of the photos. 

Also, what is your FI telling his sister when she insists you're a horrible person and your wedding is a mistake?

tawillers

Say nothing.  Let her look like a fool.

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE]I've had several issues and <strong>drama's</strong> dealing with my future sister in law (her telling us that she hates, me, I'm a horrible person, our wedding is a mistake, yadda yadda, you get the picture). I eventually decided to let it go for the good of the family and for us to just be civil around each other - but she announced yesterday that she plans on having her cousin and her wear matching outfits at the wedding because they think it would be "cute".  To me, this is her trying to get attention, and personally I would be embarrassed if I was wearing the same thing as someone else at an event.  I can't say anything because I feel it would be detrimental to our somewhat healed relationship.  What can I do?  Let it go? Find a way to tell her? Close my eyes really hard and hope it goes away??
Posted by Sonnkm[/QUOTE]

why do you care?
presumably these people are adults and can dress themselves. if they want to look like morons, let them.

sounds like she's pushing your buttons, and you're falling for it.

DG1

Also, take your wedding website out of your signature.  I, a complete stranger, now know your full names and places of employment. I could probably find your home address in about 28 seconds if I wanted to.

Don't forget - Stranger Danger.

*Barbie*

your wedding party has all of their personal info displayed too - are they ok with that?

also, you guys really shouldn't play on escalators, it's dangerous.

hmonkey

please answer your door -- i can't keep knocking all day.

let her wear whatever she wants.  if they want to look like kriss kross, please take pics and post them here so we can all have a laugh.

Sonnkm

Thanks for the ws advice - relatively new to message boards and I didn't even think about that...

Thanks for the advice about my FSIL - I just needed to hear someone reaffirm the thought that I was over reacting... I will just let her wear whatever she wants. What will be will be.  But that's a good thought ask the photographer to avoid pictures of the "Kriss Kross" twins...

DG1

I mean, there will be some pictures of them.  But I ended up with this one particular annoying person in nearly EVERY group or crowd shot. Made it difficult to assemble an album.