Kid Question

NOLABridesmaid

Is there anything your 14 year old would do that would make you say that they couldn't live at home anymore?

Meaning, you refuse to allow them to come back to your house, and don't care about the legal consequences.

thatgrrrrl

unless the kid is actively trying to harm me or other family members (by harm I mean kill/maime purposefully), no.

DG1

Yeah. Being afraid for my life, or my other family members' lives or health.

Definitely nothing like "he got his ear pierced" or "she's knocked up" or "he knocked someone up," and I'm guessing whatever case you're talking about is more along those lines.

Sad.

GBCK

It would have to be pretty sociopath-like awful.

Abusing another child in the home sort of stuff.

I'm throwing my lot in w/ DG and I"m guessing that's not the sort of thing you're dealing w/

*Barbie*

i would say yes in terms of drug/gang activities or other harmful/dangerous behavior. i.e. trying to burn down the house or harm us.

pregnancy is a maybe, actually, if she decides to keep the baby. If you are enough of an "adult" to have a child, then you need to be mature enough to find your own place to live and means to support that child. if she agrees to give the baby up for adoption, she can stay in the home.

NOLABridesmaid

He runs away and doesn't want to follow the rules. This situation is dysfunctional, but I don't understand even with all of that how you can close you eyes at night, and not know where your kid is.

6fsn

The only reason my 14 yo would not be living at home is if they were in some sort of court appointed placement.

krizzo17

My first instinct was to say only if they harmed another person in the household, but even then I don't think I'd turn them out on the streets, at 14 you can force them to go to some sort of boarding school for troubled children. This happened to my friend's sister in high school - she was very emotionally disturbed and stabbed him with a kitchen knife during some sort of breakdown. His parents knew it wasn't safe for her to be in the house with their son, but she was still their daughter, so they sent her to a school for troubled kids so he could be safe and she could get the help she needed.

mrsconn23

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[QUOTE]The only reason my 14 yo would not be living at home is if they were in some sort of court appointed placement.
Posted by 6fsn[/QUOTE]

This.

pegasuskat

I agree with 6, I would get them any help they needed but can't really think of anything bad enough to put them out at that age.  That is pretty much deciding they will have no future.