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zsazsa-stl

If you and your H divorced tomorrow, would you ask for alimony?  Do all states still have this?  It seems so outdated.

mrsconn23

We don't have alimony here.

awesome-sauce

I would like to say, i'd just assume cut all ties.

If i'm getting alimony, i'd be depending on him. Which I probably wouldn't want to do if I didn't like him.

In reality, it would depend on what he did to make me want to divorce.

And if we have/had children together. (I say if, because you know.) But that would be more along the lines of child support.

Too many if's for me.

(Edit: I make a good living on my own, so IDK if it would even be an option. Unless H inherits his families business when his parents retire. I highly doubt his brother will, so he will.)

DG1

I'd be lucky if he doesn't ask for alimony.  I am the one who brings home the bacon, lately.  He brings home the health insurance (and a nice slice of bacon, too, but you kwim).

DG1

oh, I wouldn't get alimony to be dependent.  I'd want alimony just to make him pay ( probably) so I could have awesome shoes and great vacations with sexy cabana boys at my beck and call.

Child support is, imo, a separate thing entirely, and yes, unless I thought he was dangerous or something, I would damn well expect and demand child support.

GBCK

If Id' put my life on hold in any way for him?  yes.
But...I make more.  I've done more.  I helped w/ his business but I didn't put anythin on hold for it.
I'm pretty sure he could apply from me better than vice versa.

zsazsa-stl

I've put my life on hold for H, but I still make more.  I can't imagine too many divorce scenerios in which I would still want contact with him either.

6fsn

If it happened tomorrow no.  I could go back to work without missing much of a beat.  5 years from now would be a different story.  Even a year from now would be tough and I think I'd need some support to get by until I could get a job.