Im getting married at a nice venue in the some what country. The ceremony will be taking place in a gazeebo overlooking a man made pond and the reception will be in a room in a building (same site)
We booked the venue about a year ago (4 months after we got engaged) because it fit into our budget. But right now i honestly feel like im regretting the choice.
Before we went to the venue we signed for we went to a few others, one before we were engaged (but were talking about it) and another after.
The one i went to before we got engaged i went to alone with my parents. It was just a spur of the moment thing. (we went there one month before i got the ring) It was way out of the price range so i forgot about it.
But now i cant stop thinking about it. Its 5 months to the wedding and i am finding little things wrong with the venue we have signed for. The carpets are ugly, dance floor isnt big enough ect ect.
My biggest problem is with the gazeebo. At the maple farm (the venue i cant forget about) They had a gazeebo as well but it was tucked and shaded with trees. I cant stop thinking about how perfect that would be for the ceromony the tissue paper pompoms hanging from the tress and our guests stilling under then. It would really be my dream wedding.
I feel terrible. When my Fiance and i were talking about getting married we decided we would set the date for may 2013. That way we would be out of school and have pleanty of time to save up. But in the excitment i didnt want a 2 year engagement so i told he we should move it up a year. He said yes because he's a sweetie but now i am regretting the choice.
If we would of waited that extra year i really could of gotten my dream wedding. I wouldnt be stressed out, my Fiance being jobless for the time being wouldnt matter as much. We are really in a pinch for money.My parents have given quite alot of money to help out and we are unsure where hios parents stand on money.
Another thing that is bothering me is his parents taking part in the payments. They said right off that they would pay for the rehersal dinner and the invitations and that was fine with us. They also told us to let them know if we needed anything else and they would try to help out as best as they could. We said that we should be fine and waved it off, thanking them for what they could pay for.
But now that we are in a pinch for money i find it hard to ask them for help. They know that we are in a pinch but it is extreamly hard for me to ask them to put in some money for this or that. I feel like i am being rude asking for money and would rather avoid it all together. (I find talking about money is a very sensitive topic for planning a wedding)
So between finding things that bother be with the venue and the money issues i feel like just throwing in the towel and waiting 2 years to have the wedding, but that would mean loosing the deposits and everything ( we have spent about 6k for a 15k budget wedding) I would love to cut down on things like food and such but the food is really imposrtant to me as i am a food person.
Also i wanted to cut out the favors (we were doing a candy buffet and could save 150 there) But my mother blew up at me saying that it was rude. I honestly dont think so. I am paying for their food and such as thanks for them to be there. I dont think not having favors will take away that.
Im rambling now. I just want to know your thoughts. Have you ever gone through anything like this?