So, I have a terrific mother-in-law and amazing family that has helped with planning our wedding. We decided right away that we didn't want a huge 300+ wedding, so we are getting married with just 20 people (parents, sibblings, grandma, and close friends) and thought we would through a huge reception after our honeymoon. Unfortunately, I was suppose to graduate with my teaching certificate in June but that has been pushed back to December (I finish student teaching on December 7 and our wedding is on December 13). So I thought I would be working through the fall and will not be able to. My parents are paying for a lavish ceremony and the receptiion is on us. My FMIL has offered help and I loving having her, but I they're not a position to contribute a lot.
First we were going to have a reception in their lovely back yard, but it would only be comfortable for 60 people, and since we aren't inviting a lot of people to our ceremony we don't want to hold back for the reception. Also, they have a spetic tank and don't allow people in the house with shoes on so she wanted to rent a fancy port-a-potty. I hate asking guests to take their shoes off but I know I have to get over that since it's her house. But the port-a-potty costs as much as a bigger venue.
Now, she wants us to have the reception at the same hotel where her's was 25 years ago and I HATE it. It feels like a stuffy hotel conference center with no windows what so ever. I know she can't afford to pay for the entire event and we would be contributing to the funds, but I don't want to be a brat and tell her I don't want in a the hotel.
Just wondering how any other brides would handle this. I don't want to be or sound ungrateful but the hotel would not work for me. FH stays out of stuff like this..............sucks, but probably a good choice.