Major Vent (really long-sorry)

whatchamahu

I’m not normally the vent in a public forum type, but I’m at my wits end. This has been the most stressful and overwhelming week ever. 

1. My mom and I had a major blow-out. We have always had a trepidatious relationship, and we definitely know how to push each other’s buttons. But, I just got to the end of dealing with her and the stress that she creates. She was going to be sewing all of the bridesmaid’s dresses, but it turned into one of those things where “nothing is ever free”. She was using the fact that she was helping out this way with the wedding as an excuse for her other actions. I got to the point that I knew if I didn’t just decide to buy the dresses, it was going to permanently damage our relationship. 

2. FI and I called all of the bridesmaids to let them know the change in plans with the dresses. We let them know that this was a situation that we hadn’t planned on, and that we now needed to quickly order dresses to make sure they could be here in time. Everyone was very understanding about getting to David’s Bridal in the next two weeks, except for FI’s sisters.  They said that they wouldn’t have time to go to David’s Bridal until August, seriously, a month and a half to make an hour appointment. FI and I were both really upset because we haven’t asked anything of our bridal party, and this was a situation that we had expected. It is now to the point that they are both out of the wedding. 

3. I found out that I am going to be needed another surgery on my arm. This will be surgery number seven within the last four years. I am really ready for this all to be done, and it just gets in the way of enjoying the wedding planning process. So, now on top of all of the other drama and stress I have to go have another surgery, and deal with the recovery. 

Needless to say this has not been a fun week. But, on the positive side, it is really nice to know that when FI and I face stressful situations it only brings us closer. For us family drama has always been the biggest stressor in our lives, but it is comforting to know that we can face it as a team.

Tygirljojo

*hugs* At least glad to hear you two are able to work together through the issues.  Regarding #1, good for you for telling her you don't need her help if she's going to be like that.  Regarding #2, "Gee, shame you can't be in the WP." would be my suggestion.  If they really want to be a part of it, they will find a way to get their butts into DB in the next 2 weeks. Regarding #3, good luck.  I hope this works once and for all for your arm!

carrieoz_76

I'm so sorry this is happening to you.  It's always surprised me that the real wedding-related stress is almost always due in large part to people, and not the wedding itself.  Best of luck as you work through all this, esp. your health.

fancynewbecca

Wow, such stresses you don't need. Just remember that all things happen for a reason and this too shall pass. I find the the whole wedding planning thing to be quite ridiculous, anyway because it's supposed to be something enjoyable but it's SO stressful!

Glad you can vent!