What to do??

rapike76

My sister got engaged in November 2010. I just got engaged in May2011. She is getting married in November 2011, and is having a small destination wedding . She has invited me but has not invited my Fiancee. She said that etiquette is very important to her. I am stuggling with a decision to not be a part of her wedding if she does not invite my fiancee. I know that he does not want to go, however I would like the opportunity to decline the offer. She is not a fan of my Fiancee even though they have never met and have never spoken. Please help me with this problem....Robin

MinM

You can still decline her offer, even if she hasn't invited your fiance. She has invited YOU. YOU can say no.

Is this really your sister?

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*Barbie*

OP sister is getting married in destination wedding
OP was invited but OP's FI wasn't
OP's FI doesn't want to go (which is is something of a moot point as he was not invited)
OP is all butthurt because her FI was not invited.
OP's sister does not like FI (and I'm assuming the feeling is mutual)

Your sister probably should have invited your FI  if you and he were in a long term serious relationship prior to sister's engagement. However, she didn't for whatever reason, and invited you alone.

You can choose to
1) go
2) not go

If you choose to not go, you are left with another choice:
1) tell your sister why
2) not tell her anything

You can say something along the lines of "i'm sorry, but i will not be attending. i was hurt that you chose not to invite my FI,  as he and i had a long term relationship prior to your engagement and he will soon be a member of the family."
 
stop at that. no fighting about "you just don't like him" or "you never respected us" etc.

be prepred for this to cause further issues between yourself and your sister.

baconsmom

Or, you can buy her an etiquette book that will clearly state an engaged couple are treated as a social unit. If etiquette's so important, why is she being so rude? 

ReturnOfKuus

Baconsmom, get out of my head.

blahblah85

You've never met this guy, but you don't like him?

TheDuckis

You both sound like winners. Please keep posting your sht on public forums. It's entertaining for the rest of us.

*Barbie*

i would also like to know why you don't like her FI.

I'm assuming it's one of the following reasons:
1) drug/alcohol abuse
2) abuse of your sister (emotional/physical/etc.)
3) prison record
4) cheating
5) baby mama drama
6) He's one of the 4 men in the world
7) purple monkey dishwasher

VarunaTT

I"m really going to need some popcorn for this.

*looking around for popcorn, brb*

rapike76

its purple monkey diswasher! OMG I am so embarrassed!

blahblah85

Yeah, I wanna know!  

Why dosen't your sister like your FI, rapike?