I'm ragey today

Heffalump

And it's all dumb stuff.

1.  I got a "reminder" from DD's school that tomorrow is apparently Book Character Costume Day, but it's the first I heard of it.  It hasn't been on any of her daily reports, and it's not on the school calendar.  I don't remember seeing it in the school newsletter, though it's always possible that I missed it.  Screw that, I can barely keep my eyes open until DD is in bed.  I'm going to be super lame and just tell her to wear any princess costume she wants--they're all technically book characters, and at least she'll be thrilled.

2.  We got a birthday invitation yesterday for a party on Sunday [side eye], and it's for one of DD's school friends who we invited for a play date over a month ago and whose parents blew us off--no call, no email, nothing.  So I'm a little grudgy, but DD and this girl are school friends so I RSVPed yes for the last minute party.  And the mom replied and was all "Hey, I've been meaning to get back to you about the play date, let's chat at the party."  Whatever, I'm not that into the play date anymore, especially because, as I mentioned above, it's all I can do to deal with one kid until bedtime right now.  

3.  As I was searching the school calendar to see if I somehow missed this alleged costume day, the name of the girl from #2 caught my eye--there's a list of birthdays at the bottom.  And next to it was the name of another girl whose parents invited everyone but DD to her birthday party last year.  It was really awkward--we took DD to the bouncy house place one day and her entire freaking class was there for this other girl's party.  Luckily, DD was too young to catch on at the time, she was just delighted that all her friends were at the bouncy house place.  But when they all trudged off to the party room for pizza and cake, we decided to pack DD up and get her out of there, and the other parents were like "Are you leaving already?  They're having pizza and cake!"  Awkward.  Well, this kid's birthday is Saturday, so I guess DD wasn't invited to this year's party, either.  WTF?  

So ragey today, with a heaping side of butthurt.

DG1

Dude. I SO would have told the other parents in #3 that DD wasn't actually invited to that party and your presence was mere coincidence. No way do people get away with that crap. 

GBCK

dude, all but 1 = asshole.

I mean, even if you have ONE kid in your class who kicks kittens for fun, if you invite ALL of the kids except kitten-kicker, it's assy.

you have to boot out lint-licker and nose picker too--so you're not singling out 1 kid.

hmonkey

now i'm filled with rage on your behalf too.

GBCK

(PS, I am in NO WAY saying your chld is the lint licker, kitten kicker, booger eater.  I just realized it could come across that way.

)

NOLABridesmaid

I think it's wrong to invite the entire class except for one kid. No bueno.

This reminds me of a story.

AuntFlo

Re: #3 - - are you SURE you weren't invited?  That's weird.  Unless your kid is a kitten-kicker, nose-picker, glue-eater and lint-licker all in one,   Which I highly doubt.  

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]Dude. I SO would have told the other parents in #3 that DD wasn't actually invited to that party and your presence was mere coincidence. No way do people get away with that crap. 
Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]
We did tell the mom of one of DD's really good friends, because she asked if everything was okay with DD, and why were we leaving early.  When we explained that we just happened to be there and weren't invited to the party, she looked at us with pure pity, and then she was sort of awkward about it, and I just hated the whole thing.  I can't believe I care, but I do.

AuntFlo

Oh, and #1 would make me ragey, too.  I'm so glad I have a house husband to take care of that kind of ish.  (the ONLY silver lining to his unemployment).

6fsn

Rage, rage, rage.  What sort of douche invites all but one child?

Wzz

i would be ragey, too.

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]Re: #3 - - are you SURE you weren't invited?  That's weird.  Unless your kid is a kitten-kicker, nose-picker, glue-eater and lint-licker all in one,   Which I highly doubt.  
Posted by AuntFlo[/QUOTE]

Well, she DID have a nose picking phase, but that was a while ago and as far as I know, she kicked the habit.  She doesn't do it at home anymore, anyway.  :)

Last year, DH and I predictably hashed out every possible scenario:  maybe the invitation got lost somehow?  (But then they would have at least said hi, glad you could make it, etc. when they saw us, right?)  Maybe she was accidentally overlooked?  I suppose it's possible that this kid isn't having a party this year, but if she is, then it's kind of a stretch to think that DD was accidentally left out twice in a row.  I don't know.

Maybe she's like that Daily Mail mom?  I'm the first to admit that my kid never looks like a Janie and Jack ad:  she dresses herself, so she's not always well coordinated.  (Plus she <em>is</em> wearing pink leggings today, horror of horrors.)  Sometimes she chooses two different color socks.  I don't make a big thing of it because I figure it's good for her sense of autonomy and independence:  if you don't put your toys away, that's a problem; if you want to wear one pink sock and one purple sock, it's a victimless crime.  But these kids are three turning four, so it's not like she's the only one. 

I don't know, socially she's well liked, she has lots of friends at school (including this kid, who sometimes asks DD for a hug before I take her home), plays with all the girls according to her teachers.  And I don't even know her parents, so it doesn't seem like they could have some problem with DH or me.  I am bewildered.

Wzz

rage aside, at least it's one less gift to have to buy. but still.

*Barbie*

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[QUOTE] Maybe she's like that Daily Mail mom?  
Posted by Heffalump[/QUOTE]

<div>that was my first thought. Your kid doesn't have a name based on obscure Norse mythology, so she's probably lacking, and you guys are lacking as parents. Throw in the occasional mismatched sock, and finger up nose, and she's probably been blacklisted for life. </div>

tawillers

Ugh.  That's terrible. 

Heffalump

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm ragey today : that was my first thought. Your kid doesn't have a name based on obscure Norse mythology, so she's probably lacking, and you guys are lacking as parents. Throw in the occasional mismatched sock, and finger up nose, and she's probably been blacklisted for life. 
Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]
Yeah, well her two kids are named Reese and Kinley, so if she wants to get into a name-off, then it's ON.

hmonkey

HAHAHAHAHAHA @ those names

*Barbie*

sounds like she doesn't want your kid to screw up her kids' future careers in the adult film industry. 

FlaNYtattoogirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: I'm ragey today : Well, she DID have a nose picking phase, but that was a while ago and as far as I know, she kicked the habit.  She doesn't do it at home anymore, anyway.  :) Last year, DH and I predictably hashed out every possible scenario:  maybe the invitation got lost somehow?  (But then they would have at least said hi, glad you could make it, etc. when they saw us, right?)  Maybe she was accidentally overlooked?  I suppose it's possible that this kid isn't having a party this year, but if she is, then it's kind of a stretch to think that DD was accidentally left out twice in a row.  I don't know. Maybe she's like that Daily Mail mom?  I'm the first to admit that my kid never looks like a Janie and Jack ad:  she dresses herself, so she's not always well coordinated.  (Plus she is wearing pink leggings today, horror of horrors.)  Sometimes she chooses two different color socks.  I don't make a big thing of it because I figure it's good for her sense of autonomy and independence:  if you don't put your toys away, that's a problem; if you want to wear one pink sock and one purple sock, it's a victimless crime.  But these kids are three turning four, so it's not like she's the only one.  I don't know, socially she's well liked, she has lots of friends at school (including this kid, who sometimes asks DD for a hug before I take her home), plays with all the girls according to her teachers.  And I don't even know her parents, so it doesn't seem like they could have some problem with DH or me.  I am bewildered.
Posted by Heffalump[/QUOTE]

Maybe it's just the way you and your DH look. Who knows. I would stick up for my child and say something to the parents so DD isn't left out again when she is old enough to know better. Grow a vagina. Stick up for your kid.

FLANYTATOOGURL

I hope Y'all realize that whichever person is trying to impersonate me is one of your friends and they are saying theese nasty things to you. What a great friend!

mandi195

There have been a few situations I've faced where my son was invited for partys and play dates, until the parents came to my son's birthday party (which was your typical kid party... and parents were invited to stay if they liked.) My son still has play dates with some of the children, but there are two famlies I can think of that flat out stopped inviting us, and didn't even bother to respond to our invites any longer, and the rumor mill says it's because I'm heavily tattooed. Most would never know it; I work a "typical" job in an office, wear business clothes regularly, and my tattoos are never showing when I pick my son up or go to school events because I'm usually coming from work and can't have my tattoos showing in the office; so none of them knew I was "weird" until the party. Now I'm labeled a "freak" and unfit for supervising their children on playdates at our home, even though they survived under my care in the past... jerks.